March for sanity

By Anonymous - 20/09/2021 23:00

Today, it took all 3 of my kids threatening to use their saved money to move out and into a flat together to make me realise just how much of an asshole my boyfriend is, and that by any definition I’ve been in a mentally abusive relationship for years, and ignored everyone’s attempts to help. FML
I agree, your life sucks 924
You deserved it 713

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Don't be too hard on yourself that is part of the abuse the second-guessing. and that is why you didn't listen when people were trying to help. but at least you realized when your kids finally said enough is enough. that is the first step ,now the next step is find yourself a really good therapist take time heal yourself and then someday you will truly find somebody you deserve. good luck Op.

Jeremy Strang 7

How did you ever become a popular commenter? You're just a clueless ass who says the first clueless thing that pops into your head.

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Don't be too hard on yourself that is part of the abuse the second-guessing. and that is why you didn't listen when people were trying to help. but at least you realized when your kids finally said enough is enough. that is the first step ,now the next step is find yourself a really good therapist take time heal yourself and then someday you will truly find somebody you deserve. good luck Op.

So your kids "fix" it by mentally abusing you?

Jeremy Strang 7

How did you ever become a popular commenter? You're just a clueless ass who says the first clueless thing that pops into your head.

Well, in some sense the kids did try and go for what is, ultimately, emotional blackmail. That being said, considering the way the FML is phrased, it does appear to have been a last resort approach to help OP. It kind of amounts to fighting fire with fire, but sometimes you don't have much of a choice. Then again, it does sound like the kids might not be adults: they're talking about using their saved up money to rent a flat, so unless they're all unemployed, they're likely teenagers. Teenagers can be mentally abusive sometimes (mostly by accident), but it seems unlikely that all three would agree to such an extent if there wasn't a real problem with OP's boyfriend.

Ambrily 27

I don't see it as an abusive maneuver, honestly, but more as a way to tell their mom they can't stand the situation any longer. Could even be that they are being abused as well (very probably, when you live with a manipulative person), and they told their mom they kinda give up on helping her to save themselves, which is really sad but thankfully worked as a wake up call for her.

bobsanction 18

Couldn't be that bad if you didn't notice.

You got this op... dump that fucking asshole! My mom was in an abusive relationship for years and just got out of it! Take care of your kids first and foremost, fuck your bf. Goodluck!