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Don't be too hard on yourself that is part of the abuse the second-guessing. and that is why you didn't listen when people were trying to help. but at least you realized when your kids finally said enough is enough. that is the first step ,now the next step is find yourself a really good therapist take time heal yourself and then someday you will truly find somebody you deserve. good luck Op.

How did you ever become a popular commenter? You're just a clueless ass who says the first clueless thing that pops into your head.

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Don't be too hard on yourself that is part of the abuse the second-guessing. and that is why you didn't listen when people were trying to help. but at least you realized when your kids finally said enough is enough. that is the first step ,now the next step is find yourself a really good therapist take time heal yourself and then someday you will truly find somebody you deserve. good luck Op.

So your kids "fix" it by mentally abusing you?

How did you ever become a popular commenter? You're just a clueless ass who says the first clueless thing that pops into your head.

Well, in some sense the kids did try and go for what is, ultimately, emotional blackmail. That being said, considering the way the FML is phrased, it does appear to have been a last resort approach to help OP. It kind of amounts to fighting fire with fire, but sometimes you don't have much of a choice. Then again, it does sound like the kids might not be adults: they're talking about using their saved up money to rent a flat, so unless they're all unemployed, they're likely teenagers. Teenagers can be mentally abusive sometimes (mostly by accident), but it seems unlikely that all three would agree to such an extent if there wasn't a real problem with OP's boyfriend.

Couldn't be that bad if you didn't notice.

You got this op... dump that fucking asshole! My mom was in an abusive relationship for years and just got out of it! Take care of your kids first and foremost, fuck your bf. Goodluck!