It's not you, it's me

By DyingAlone - 14/12/2021 23:01

Today, I met the guy my ex left me for. He's morbidly obese, has no personality, and got her drinking again, even though she has a problem. She says, "I've never been happier." Now everything I've done for my anxiety and depression has come undone, and I can't be convinced there isn't something horribly wrong with me. FML
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She is happier because she can drink with him. Please realize you can not measure yourself to a drinking alcoholic.

It's not you, she sounds self-destructive. She needs therapy.

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She is happier because she can drink with him. Please realize you can not measure yourself to a drinking alcoholic.

It's not you, she sounds self-destructive. She needs therapy.

Why would he turn on the charm around you? He probably put on a fat suit just to fuck with you.

it's definitely not you. you were saving her and good for her, and some people just don't want to be saved. you will find someone that deserves you. drop the rope and let her drown

Someone being happier with someone else doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, only that you were incompatible. You, too, will find a better match. Let’s not shame people for their weight when the fundamental issue is compatibility as a whole.

Dirtysalamander1 8

he wasn't shaming anyone. he actually said the professional term, obese.

Vesi 28

Except that size has absolutely no bearing on personality or compatibility and has no purpose in OPs situation.

Medical term or not, he IS shaming him, because he listed that as a fuckin reason to supposedly not be good for her. You fat phobic fucks really out yourselves like this.

You start by insulting her current partner and continue by blaming him for your ex drinking problem. I would dare guess that you were very judgemental to her and probably constantly tried to make her a better person instead of loving and cherishing her. But what really raised a red flag is that this meeting affected so badly on your depression and anxiety, making you sound like a very depended person. Move on, cut every contact with her, treat yourself, become a better person. You will also find happiness in life

You are not responsible for what your ex does. Stop following her on social media or contacting her - No good will come of that. It’s time to move on.

Dirtysalamander1 8

move on and don't try to compare yourself to others. that hurting yourself really. now you're free from her. she chose someone else. you can't change what happened. now you can better yourself for yourself and not for someone else.

You know, I think some people just grew up being more familiar with harm and chaos than acceptance and love. i'm very sorry op, it sounds like you're the normal one in this situation

some people won't shop at Neiman Marcus, because they only want to spend walmart prices. what I mean is your value isn't a reflection of someone else's attention.