Great relationship you got there…

By anon - 26/10/2022 00:00

Today, I had to blast music, turn the lights on, and physically drag my 29 year-old girlfriend out of bed to wake her up. All the while, she verbally abused me. This is the only way to wake her up, and if I don't do it, she will sleep through the day and then scream at me. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 148
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Listen, OP. I am speaking to you directly, here. I want you to imagine for a minute that you have a female friend who just told you this exact story about her SO. Exact same story, nothing else, no “Oh, but they’re really nice other than this!” type context. Would you think this was normal then? Or would you tell her to stand up for herself, let her datemate wake up on their own and recognize the screaming at your friend because of their own actions for the toxic behavior that it is? You can, and should, be treated better than this. Please seek help, either in helping your girlfriend find out and manage the cause of her issues or in leaving her for someone who treats you right.

And even just a rough nudge does not work? If this is her just being lazy... well, I'll at least understand, but no one should need THAT much just to get out of bed. You should not need to stand for the verbal abuse either.

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And even just a rough nudge does not work? If this is her just being lazy... well, I'll at least understand, but no one should need THAT much just to get out of bed. You should not need to stand for the verbal abuse either.

Listen, OP. I am speaking to you directly, here. I want you to imagine for a minute that you have a female friend who just told you this exact story about her SO. Exact same story, nothing else, no “Oh, but they’re really nice other than this!” type context. Would you think this was normal then? Or would you tell her to stand up for herself, let her datemate wake up on their own and recognize the screaming at your friend because of their own actions for the toxic behavior that it is? You can, and should, be treated better than this. Please seek help, either in helping your girlfriend find out and manage the cause of her issues or in leaving her for someone who treats you right.

She either a) doesn’t have any self control/motivation, which is NOT up to you to fix for her or b) is dealing with an illness (could be depression, or something like Addison’s disease); in that case she should be seeing a doctor and/or psychiatrist. It is not for you to take care of. I understand asking a partner to help with a wake up call but what you describe is unreasonable. Either way though, verbal abuse and screaming is abuse. You are in an abusive relationship. Time to move on.

She needs to go to a damn doctor already. Don’t put up with this shit.

I have the same issue with my girlfriend doesn’t matter if she sleeps five or nine hours never wants to get up. The few times she goes up and I want to sleep in I’m apparently wasting the entire day and being lazy…

never put your hands on someone and pull them out of bed. your in the wrong. if she won't get up then you leave if you have a problem. it's not up to you.

Red flags. So many ref flags. Dude, you're being abused. This is abuse. Please seek out a therapist before this escalates anymore.

This sounds like emotional abuse and it isn't okay. She needs to get her life sorted... and you sure as heck don't deserve to be thrown through the mud because of her bad choices and habits.

Kalex 4

Leave while you still can. You deserve better