Does it work? He might be onto something. In the moment, he probably cares more about a peaceful shopping experience than teaching a lesson, which can always be done later.

Why are you furious? If it works, it sounds like just as good a solution as any.

I mean if he's a toddler, that's honestly probably more effective than trying to reason with a small human who is honestly probably just tired and overstimulated.

Why reason with a child. Teach them like a parent should.

The kid might think being picked up and carried around is fun or a game. he might be doing it on purpose to get the father to pick him up. no reason to be angry.

Until kids develop their If/Then logic and proper self awareness, you're actually better off training them like puppies. This is why people with well trained dogs tend to have well trained children as well. There was a study (a small one) that proved it. Toddlers don't have the mental or emotional equipment to express themselves, so they throw tantrums when things get too much for them. No amount of talking at them is going to change it *until* that child can be reasoned with. Completely ignoring the unwanted behaviour is probably more effective than pandering to it...

I'm with your husband on this. If I was him, I'd handle your being 'furious in' the same mindset he handles the toddler.

Your husband is half correct. He should be carrying the toddler outside so his tantrum isn't disturbing other shoppers' peace, then go back in after he calms down.

Plot twist: son is 19.

Right, because just talking to kids gets the message across that they're acting like little *****. That's the problem with kids these days - parents don't actually parent. Good for your husband for actually doing something about your kid misbehaving, especially in public.