Today, I learned that when my husband takes our son shopping and he acts up, my husband picks him up under his arm and carries him around, instead of talking to him and trying to calm or reason with him. I'm FURIOUS. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I grounded my son after finding out that he's been bullying other kids at school. He got mad and screamed at me, calling me a "bastard". Instead of defending me, my wife got pissed and accused me of having taught our son to swear like that. I can never win. FML
Today, after I can't count how many times, my boyfriend of 5 years decided to break MORE things in our home, because I asked him not to let our son speak to me rudely. His response, "He said 'OK' so you should have shut up." Basically, he's raising my kid to treat me like he does. FML
Today, my husband had a temper tantrum because I wouldn't get him a chocolate bar at the store register. FML
Today, while shopping, my six-year-old son threw a tantrum because I wouldn't buy him a video game. I ended up having to grab his arm and leave the store. He screamed that I was kidnapping him, at which point I was socked in the face and pinned to the floor by three bystanders. FML
Today, I yelled at my oldest son for picking his little brother up by the throat. Only to then be yelled at my my mother-in-law for hurting his feelings. FML
Today, I found out why my five-year-old has been throwing tantrums while shopping. It turns out my ex-husband has been paying her three dollars for every public tantrum she throws. FML
Today, I tried to talk to my soon-to-be-husband about how he needs to take a more active approach in his own life. It devolved to him screaming at me and putting words in my mouth. This has been going on for six months. FML
Today, when my son gets mad in a store, he will scream stranger danger and run away from me, and to an employee, and ask for help. FML
Today, my girlfriend's kid was acting silly and cutting up in a busy parking lot. I saw a car coming towards him and yanked him to my side. He started crying and my girlfriend screamed at me for "being mean" to him. I should have let the brat get hit, I guess. If this is the stepdad life, fuck it, I'm out. FML
Today, my husband has a terrible temper and starts screaming for everything. Consequently, I've learnt to deflect and shift blame to save myself. He says he flies off the handle because I shift blame, while I do it to avoid being verbally abused. Made for each other much? FML
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QueenSaru 28
I mean if he's a toddler, that's honestly probably more effective than trying to reason with a small human who is honestly probably just tired and overstimulated.
FluffythePink 24
Until kids develop their If/Then logic and proper self awareness, you're actually better off training them like puppies. This is why people with well trained dogs tend to have well trained children as well. There was a study (a small one) that proved it. Toddlers don't have the mental or emotional equipment to express themselves, so they throw tantrums when things get too much for them. No amount of talking at them is going to change it *until* that child can be reasoned with. Completely ignoring the unwanted behaviour is probably more effective than pandering to it...
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poopface82 25
Does it work? He might be onto something. In the moment, he probably cares more about a peaceful shopping experience than teaching a lesson, which can always be done later.
Wadlaen 24
Why are you furious? If it works, it sounds like just as good a solution as any.
QueenSaru 28
I mean if he's a toddler, that's honestly probably more effective than trying to reason with a small human who is honestly probably just tired and overstimulated.
Noteworthybear 4
Why reason with a child. Teach them like a parent should.
Alayna Joyce Christensen 16
The kid might think being picked up and carried around is fun or a game. he might be doing it on purpose to get the father to pick him up. no reason to be angry.
FluffythePink 24
Until kids develop their If/Then logic and proper self awareness, you're actually better off training them like puppies. This is why people with well trained dogs tend to have well trained children as well. There was a study (a small one) that proved it. Toddlers don't have the mental or emotional equipment to express themselves, so they throw tantrums when things get too much for them. No amount of talking at them is going to change it *until* that child can be reasoned with. Completely ignoring the unwanted behaviour is probably more effective than pandering to it...
Iamthebanzai22 21
I'm with your husband on this. If I was him, I'd handle your being 'furious in' the same mindset he handles the toddler.
Earl_KarmasBitch 36
MIght be a bit harder to pick the wife up and carry her around
Hangryko 32
Your husband is half correct. He should be carrying the toddler outside so his tantrum isn't disturbing other shoppers' peace, then go back in after he calms down.
Sertorius 10
Plot twist: son is 19.
JasonThorn 23
Nothing in the entry says the father is a powerlifter.
Taurus_ChicKa 37
Right, because just talking to kids gets the message across that they're acting like little *****. That's the problem with kids these days - parents don't actually parent. Good for your husband for actually doing something about your kid misbehaving, especially in public.