And you ask find yourself, "Well, how did I get here?"

his FRIEND he said broke his arm, not him

Oh yea that's right.. Brake his arm anyway. This is what happens when you scheme through stuff, people wont let it slide. Y'all get my point right?? He's still a dishonorable man, brake his damn arm!

Break. BREAK his arm. Unless you plan on OP applying a mechanical brake on her husbands arm. Smh

good god! get off of haniel's balls!!

Husband's* Shaking My head.* Don'tcorrect someone if you make mistakes as well.

For cheaters it's either about control or the thrill of doing something without getting caught. 90% of human beings are totally ****** in the head. Get used to it.

You've got to realize, cheaters especially after marriage, don't go out and say "Oh hey, I feel like cheating today". Somewhere along the line, OP and her Husband let a little space in the relationship, this space opens, and suddenly there's a little window there. It's not like any of the two want to step out through the window, but somewhere along the line, another lady stepped in, one that gave the OP's Husband a little more attention in the area OP was lacking, hence the window. OP, I do not advise you to get a divorce, getting it once will only make it easier the next time, thus harder to keep a permanent relationship. Remember, it's not like he just decided he's going to cheat on you because, well "it's today, and I want to cheat", nope that's not how it works. Somewhere there was a window left open between the two of you. Instead of opting for divorce because you highly suspect him cheating, try to fix that gap and close that window. I'd. Recommend marriage counseling. A marriage is not something you pitch in the garbage because there was a flaw. So try and work it out, see what you and him both can do to fix it. I hope it goes fine - Good day :D

I beg to differ on your idea of there being space that leads to cheating. My ex husband cheated on me & his reasoning was he "could love more than 1 person" but I couldn't have even so much as a male friend at work. I do agree on the control aspect, but there wasn't a moment I pushed him away until I found out about his infidelity.

Normally, I would agree with you 100% 81. I think way too many people in this world get married for the wedding, and then discover that marriage itself isn't a walk in the park and decide to get a divorce. However, infidelity tends to be the kiss-of-death for many marriages - even couples willing to work THROUGH it together have a hard time. And that's only when the wronging person (the husband, in this case) takes accountability for their actions and the hurt they've inflicted. Do I think people can change? Yes, I do, but there needs to be an understanding of their failures. And by the sounds of it, if her husband IS cheating this man isn't interested in telling her. So while working through it is all well in good, OP very well may not want to. Working through something like that is an uphill battle, and she really needs to decide if it's worth it. Sometimes, it's really not. And I don't know if you intended it or not, I don't really believe you did, but your comment comes off as a bit apologetic for the husband. No matter what bitch is stepping through that window, a faithful man would have turned her down. He was in the wrong, point-blank. Never, EVER has there been a case where sleeping with a third party has HELPED your marriage.

.. Or instead of being a spineless jackass if the husband felt there was some "window" "distance" whatever you want to call it, he could have worked on the problems with OP. Seriously why is communication so hard over sleeping around. Hell or take the route a buddy of mine did. He realized he was going to sleep with a girl at a party he was at and had the balls before hand to call and break up with his GF. Not exactly what I'd call good, but there is still no excuse for cheating....