Today, I asked my boss for a few days off next week, because my grandmother passed away yesterday and I'll need to travel to attend the funeral. His response: "She's dead, you're not. You want time off, then quit." FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I told my boss that my grandma died to get a day off work, but then my grandma showed up at the office looking for me because she wanted to go shopping. FML
Today, my boss took back my week off because he wants to take a spontaneous Caribbean vacation with his wife, which is "clearly more important" than what I was going to do. I needed that time off so I could be with my Dad in hospice. FML
Today, my boss is such an unfeeling asshole that he seriously thought he could demand I only stay at my best friend's funeral for 45 minutes then return to work, because it was “just a friend, not a relative', and that when his mother died he "took a whole 2 hours off and was back at work by 11:45.” FML
Today, while reading the newspaper, I noticed that an ad had been placed for my job. I asked my boss for a week off so that I could fly home for my father's funeral. No wonder she was so cool with it. FML
Today, I ran into my boss when I was at the beach. He told me he was sorry for my loss. I asked him, "What loss?" Then I remembered I’d lied about taking time off under the pretense of bereavement of my grandmother passing away. FML
Today, I e-mailed the online instructor for my job, telling her that I had fallen behind in my work due to my grandmother's passing and the subsequent funeral arrangements, but that I would catch up this week. Her reply? "OK. Hope your grandmother gets better soon." FML
Today, I was supposed to attend my best friend's funeral. When I asked my boss for time off, she actually said friends don't justify having the day off, unlike say a blood relative. My boss is autistic, so she struggles to understand certain things, but even for her that was a real prick thing to say. FML
Today, I called off work saying my Great Grandmother died. A co-worker texted me later asking where and when the funeral was. I made up a lie and said some random funeral home and date. My co-workers sent flowers to the funeral home for condolences. The flowers were returned. FML
Today, I asked my boss if I could take a vacation day for my birthday on Monday. She called to tell me yes, and then told me I'm getting laid off. FML
Today, I asked my bosses for three weeks off in July to go on a much-needed vacation. Their response was to fire me on the spot. My bosses are my aunt and uncle. FML
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inner_peace 19
Sorry for your loss, OP. And an insensitive boss like that is a horrible one. I wish you and your family the best.
nairi09 12
what an asshole.
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inner_peace 19
Sorry for your loss, OP. And an insensitive boss like that is a horrible one. I wish you and your family the best.
jazzy_123 20
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we talked about people that are "almost psychopaths" and how they make great bosses because they would get the job done and not really care about people's feelings. It's something they can't help. Maybe OPs boss is an "almost psychopath" x)
inner_peace 19
He's just a shitty boss.
jazzy_123 20
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yeah I guess he is. I was just trying to throw some facts out there but that didn't work -,- I'm done lol x)
False_Stupidity 42
Maybe there's no "almost" about it...
MrsDruidess 23
I am fairly certain you get time off for the family medical leave act. . . not sure if grandparents are covered but its worth looking into.
random_cashmere 25
OP should "get sick" so he does not have to go to work.
kristenmg21 10
#101, my great grandma was covered under funeral leave, which you are legally obligated to.
alycion 39
When I got sick we looked at FMLA and I am pretty sure it was only for caregiving, so death doesn't count. Companies do usually offer bereavement leave but I have had different standards at different companies. I had one company that offered it for immediate family only. And another one that let me have a few days off because my father's best friend died. I didn't ask for time off because there were no services to go to as was his wish, but I grew up with him being like an uncle or even second father to me. My boss knew I wasn't taking it well, gave me 3 days paid off and had me telecommute for a few more. A good boss would see op's pain a and react accordingly.
kaablam 17
This was in the US, meaning that some states are fire at will, such as Texas(represent! lol), employers can fire you with no reason and are not obligated to give one.
xSLEEPYxHEADx 22
#35, I think you mean SOCIOPATH?
jazzy_123 20
168, actually there are people who are psychopaths (they're born 'crazy'), sociopaths (they become that way) and then there are people who have a lot of the characteristics but not enough to call them psychopaths, hence my term of "almost psychopaths"
nairi09 12
what an asshole.
iuec2wnty5 6
sounds like a non union job no rights for the worker
graceinsheepwear 34
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Grandparents aren't considered immediate family for the purposes of bereavement leave anyway.
AFCCT 7
Most jobs offer at least one day for grandparents and a lot of bosses, obviously not all, are understanding and will give you one or two more if need be.
funsizedbecka 9
Where do you work? I work union and grandparents are considered immediate family.
Gpmo 10
lol unions suck.
nettrol 19
I work for the worst company in the world and they give you bereavement pay and time off for grandparents and they're non-union.
horneyhic 15
But you still ussualy get a day for extended family
LisaDay 14
good. unions are nothing but scams. i worked at a grocery store where they tricked you into joining and you couldn't get out as long as you worked there. and the union at another grocery chain (you may have heard this story) had members take a position at the store mix rancid meat in with fresh meat before selling it. they taped it on their phones and claimed it was procedure. many people took ill before the non-union employees spoke up and told management what was going on. the chain no longer has a union and the stores are dojng much better. it actually happened at the one near me. the employees are much happier there now.
asnakelovinbabe 16
You can't blame unions for some crap that some shitty grocery store employees did. My husband is employed by an electrical workers union and they have been nothing short of amazing for us and our family. A great community and group of people and our family will always be taken care of. Not all unions are the same... There are plenty of good ones and bad ones, just like how there are lots of good people and bad people (like OP's boss)
CaitiieBuggs 23
#58; I don't think it's a matter of unions being scams, it's just that unions range from great to shit. My uncle's union is fantastic, and they genuinely have the employees best interests in mind. On the other hand, my husband's union is crap, just churning people out and treat them as though people are disposable. It just depends.
RedShirtDecoy 4
I've only worked non Union jobs and never had to deal with a boss like this. Unions have killed this country. Why do you think the VW plant said no? Unions did what they needed to do and now they need to go. They are more greedy than the coprs they are protecting against.
melbrook10 1
Actually not all unions are bad. I am protected by a transit union and we just negotiated a new contract with our company. We ended up with an extra two holidays a year, 8 raises (in addition to the raises we were already guaranteed) over the course of 3 years, medical after retirement and a reduction in the amount of years we have to work before we get our full pension. Don't judge a book by its cover.
allplayedout 20
The majority of American jobs (particularly if OP is in the south, in a "right to work for less" state) are non-union.
TShaunik 12
Nurses union in my state went on strike about 5 years ago saying they weren't having enough nurses on duty to provide quality service to the patients. The strike ended and the terms they agreed to was higher pay. Seemed to have forgotten that the reason for the strike was to have enough people working to help the patients...
boskone 1
That's rather exactly the problem with unions: you've just increased costs for your employer, and such negotiations are usually from an already-acceptable level. Those kind of "benefits" are what's killing the US automotive industry.
freckleface221 19
Report the ********.
graceinsheepwear 34
To whom? ******** police?
inner_peace 19
No, to the superiors within the company.
graceinsheepwear 34
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The boss was rude, granted. But he is also not required to approve time off. There's nothing to report. Work isn't fair nor is it that enjoyable. That's why you get paid to do it.
inner_peace 19
Pretty sure employers are supposed to allow leave for deaths within the family.
bertyogurt 7
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I have to agree with #30. Her boss is an insensitive asshole, yeah, and I don't agree with his choice whatsoever, but there's nothing in his handbook that says he must give her time off, unless it's an emergency, which a funeral is not, unfortunately.
inner_peace 19
A death in the family is.
badluckalex 23
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its not an emergence to the company, or wherever op works. he isnt required to give op time off in this situation.. unfortunately.
bertyogurt 7
You see, most people like to live by their own, personal definitions, so what an emergency is to them is also what an emergency should be to everyone else, in their mind at least. A funeral, by official policy, is not classified as an emergency, although most people will be human enough to let you go.
skipper2009 18
#40,#50- do you work with OP? How do you know what's considered emergency/ what's in the handbook?
bertyogurt 7
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Work related rules are generally the same. You people are just being all cunty about it because you don't want to hear the truth. No one's agreeing with the bastard. Just simply clarifying what's what. The adult world isn't for everyone, I suppose. Maybe you should go and have this conversation with your mother if you only want to hear what you want to hear.
bertyogurt 7
If anyone feels like they must research this, I oblige you to do so. There are 0 laws requiring your employer to give you sympathy leave when a *grandparent* dies, because a grandparent is not a dependent. I don't apologize for being correct.
amberv61 22
Correct or not you don't have to be rude about it. Being correct makes people's heads too big that they call people "cunty"
kirrra 11
#89 by your logic everyone should run around telling lies and incorrect info just in case they are, by your definition, rude.. or god forbid in case they tell someone something they're not willing to accept.
SpicyDuck 22
There may not be any "laws" about leave for family matters. But there could be company policies that ops boss could be ignoring. No one would know that but op though so get your head out of your ass and think about that before you all rip each other a new one.
bertyogurt 7
@89- My first response was completely acceptable, and respectable. You became "cunty" after you refused to listen to myself and another man that clearly knew what he was talking about. Then again, you probably didn't even see it because it was the truth, and the truth is nothing but the enemy, apparently. Have a good day. lol.
Scynistr 20
How on earth can you say that? You don't even know the name of the company... Let alone it's policies... For all you know this guy doesn't run his store the way he is supposed to.
anon42146 8
go to the doctors. They will give a medical excuse for emotional trauma. Normally a week. And work force MUST respect a medical excuse. Problem Solved.
kumarina 35
Sorry for your loss, your boss is a dick!
Karenezzy 20
Sorry for your loss! But that is a RUDE ASS Hearltess mathafacka!
Verst 16
How'd you get tricked into working for this asshole in the first place?
lb0812 18
Money.
inner_peace 19
People will work the shittiest of jobs just to get by.
Verst 16
True. Especially in this economy.
leaper66 12
Sorry! Hopefully there is a way you can stick it to your boss for being such a douchebag.
acgt1 5
Sprry to hear OP. Just know that we care about you and your family :)
GetSomeM0 24
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just pray for him.
warsun 27
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You're op's boss aren't you? Oh it's grandMOTHER not father
SHAMUS_the_WITTY 18
"I pray your brakes go out running down a hill, I pray a flower pot falls from a windowsill and knccks you in the head like I'd like to..."
jack_jill05 14
I was thinking of the exact same song.. whenever someone tells me to pray for someone I dont like I start singing that in my head.