By amie - 11/08/2009 08:43 - Canada
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And did this teach you anything???? Like stop being the one who cries all the time?
I have control over when I cry, and for everyone saying I'm heartless or whatever, read the FML. They had issues, the girl cried, the mom and sister placed a bet on it. If it had been so bad that the OP should've been crying, the mom and sister would've been crying as well, or at least not placed a bet on it. CLEARLY she cries a lot, so SHUT THE FUCK UP! Seriously, it's not even worth fighting back because you people have full confidence that your way of crying all the time is the right way.
Emotional deficiency (or, rather, emotional equilibrium - rather presumptuously using the term "deficiency" implies that an overabundance of hysteria is somehow, bizarrely, normal and acceptable) goes hand in hand with logic and rationality. I'd prefer to think with my mind, not my hormones.
Nah man, you can have too much of just logic- emotions should be a factor in decisions too, it's qualities like empathy that can make the world peaceful and kind. This might be an odd example, but ever seen Watchmen? Dr. Manhattan becomes distant and detached because he reasons solely with logic and no emotion, to the point of not even caring a bit if humanity died out. If any human ever thinks that it doesn't matter whether people live or die, there's something seriously wrong there.
Whatever messages you gleamed from that godawful film consisted solely of hollywood tripe that wasn't present in the book (besides, I'm a committed misanthrope, and I disagree completely with the notion that not giving a toss about the state of humanity is a bad thing.) Irrespective of my other opinions, I get what you're saying, but being rational and emotionally competent aren't necessarily mutually exclusive - It's possible to be a thinker with a heart without bursting into floods of completely fucking unnecessary tears at the most superfluous bullshit conceivable. Hell, I even know a few women who manage this perfectly well.
Yeah, but the whole point of the OP telling this story was because her mom and sister were being cruel to her. You call her emotionally fragile because she cried, but you don't know anything about her and thus have no basis for telling her to Grow Up. Maybe there's a reason for her to cry, and yet you sit all too comfortably behind the mask of your "male emotional stability." Yes, you may claim that you're just more logical than emotional, but you're still a douche bag.
Actually, I read that before puberty finishes boys and girls cry about the amount... after puberty males cry a lot less, and generally only to genuine emotional distress (bereavement etc).... a guy will generally not cry out of frustration or because somebody said something mean to them. One argument I read is that that there is an evolutionary reason for emotions. For example anger serves a useful purpose in that it makes people feel that you will seek pointless revenge (a disincentive to fuck with you). Similarly crying works by making the other person feel bad