By Anonymous - 29/10/2019 02:00

What was the point?

Today, four years after my husband passed away, my mother in law thought it was the right time to tell me my husband was cheating on me, and that they had met her and everything. FML
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By  mssileas  |  25

There's such a thing as "you missed the point where the truth would have been helpful".

Either say it right away when you find out about the cheating, or keep silent. But four years into OP griefing for one version of her husband is a bit late to tear it all apart again and twisting not only the relationship itself, but also OP's entire grieving process so far.
And now on top of that chaos sits the thought "Why would you only tell me NOW?", it's like an entire new betrayal. Messed up.

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By  bl3ur0z3  |  17

Would you rather the truth never came out? It's possible that it's been hard for her to protect you from this truth and she was waiting until time had a chance to ease your heartache.

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  mssileas  |  25

There's such a thing as "you missed the point where the truth would have been helpful".

Either say it right away when you find out about the cheating, or keep silent. But four years into OP griefing for one version of her husband is a bit late to tear it all apart again and twisting not only the relationship itself, but also OP's entire grieving process so far.
And now on top of that chaos sits the thought "Why would you only tell me NOW?", it's like an entire new betrayal. Messed up.

By  0neiros  |  12

Correction, EX Mother in law. If there's kids, I'd say that just cost them as no fucking way would I let them near the kids because all they would do ultimately is hurt them.