By Anonymous - 07/09/2021 14:01
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Sorry I'm replying so late, but I'm just getting back from a party thrown in my honor where I was awarded as Man of the Year by my multitude of dear friends. They decided not to wait until the end of December to select the Man of the Year because I was so far ahead, no one else could catch up. BTW, I agree with the therapist.
Dang harsh guys lol. Yes, it’s *possible* there may be a humblebrag element to OP’s complaints, but that wouldn’t mean the issue is invalid. Some people get overwhelmed but also don’t know how to say “no” to things. OP could be a people-pleaser. Someone could just be requesting his presence at a gathering, or really asking for help. OP could be accepting social invitations due to FOMO, or overextending himself due to wanting to help people who ask for it. Or based on other comments and his therapist, he is literally addicted to being popular and enjoying the “stress” of it lol. Or he’s actually stressed out and doesn’t know how to balance his needs with others. Or anything in between. OP, if this is your issue, learn to say no, set boundaries, and take personal/mental health time as you need it - really carve it out and schedule it to make sure you do it - personal time with/for yourself and no one else. You don’t owe anyone anything. If your popularity is based on real friendship, they should understand. Perfunctory joke - Damn OP I wish I had your problem! But my social anxiety means I have to decline the mountains of invitations I get from all my fans—I mean friends. 😜
To everyone telling op to turn off their phone: Not everyone can do that without dire consequences. For instance, my parents call the cops if I don’t respond to their messages within 10 minutes. Also, they could be expecting important calls like for a job interview. Don’t judge someone’s life without knowing all the details.