Traditions, eh?

By Anonymous - 02/08/2023 10:00 - Albania

Today, my boyfriend and I are Balkans (Albanian to be more specific) and him, his dad, and my dad went out for coffee to talk. I found out afterwards that my dad had accepted my hand in engagement without talking to me about it. I've only been dating him for a month. FML
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You're marrying your dad? I'm sure your boyfriend isn't happy with this. And his dad is jealous knowing now that you have a thing for older men.

Maybe the guy who has been taught from childhood etc. etc. is his dad and the boyfriend is a little bit more open about the subject? It's worth a try to go out for coffee with the boyfriend before throwing the future babies with the proverbial bathwater.

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You're marrying your dad? I'm sure your boyfriend isn't happy with this. And his dad is jealous knowing now that you have a thing for older men.

Run away? Break it off if you can. Or insist on a long engagement if you can't. You *might* end up loving the guy for real after a year or so. If he's being pressured by his parents as well then you can both come to a compromise 'engagement' to keep them all off your backs. As to your father? Personally, I'd never speak to the guy again. Anything else I'd want to do to him is illegal in most countries... Hope you figure it out 🫂

Do you really want to spend your life with a guy who has been taught from childhood that you do not have autonomy over your future and your body? I don't care how in love you might be with him, find a way out. Run away if you have to before you get trapped in a life of abuse and servitude.

Maybe the guy who has been taught from childhood etc. etc. is his dad and the boyfriend is a little bit more open about the subject? It's worth a try to go out for coffee with the boyfriend before throwing the future babies with the proverbial bathwater.

Wadlaen 23

Congratulations! And the best of luck to both of you, and your families!