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My mate once came into a crowded room and asked 'who died?', thnking we'd all just been told off. It was a guy in the year above. FYL OP- this is the kind of thing you could never know, and will presumably never do again in the future.

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Obviously people will say things without thinking and it takes some practice to learn how to hold back from having diarrhea of the mouth, but it is possible. It's just like walking up to a woman you assume is pregnant and asking, "how far along are you?" It can potentially be very hurtful. OP, I stick to my initial comment, "Think before you speak."

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lol this is sort of similar to what happened to me w. MJ. I asked my cousins if he was dead cause I just didn't know and it turned out that he dies that day a few hours before I asked. lol I thought this was sort of different than asking a woman "how far along are you" cause like she didn't assume anything she just sort of tried to find out why he was sad jokingly by maybe saying the first reason of why someone would be sad that came to her mind......but she should've said something like " why do you look all sad and/or depressed?" instead of what she said..

How could she have known? It was a perfectly legit comment, and pretty commonly used. I mean, we can't totally watch and guard our comments for the one in ten million chance it's correct. It's like you saying, "No, don't ask him if that's why he's angry because maybe someone really DID piss in his Cheerios." Telling her to be "careful" and all that is the type of ultra-political correctness that is bringing down society. Rock on, Op. it was nice of you to even stop to speak to an ex. His life may have been worse if his mom died an then you looked right at him and walked away. Besides, you totally nailed it. Clairvoyant!

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Sure. Except everyone dies and not a lot of people urinate in Cheerios. A good rule of thumb is to not lead with a 'Who died?' gag if you don't frequently communicate with that person.

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Exactly, 32. The whole "that's the kind of thing that's bringing down society" routine is so tired. Every time someone seems to disagree with another person, that kind of comment pops up. Give it a rest. There's not necessarily anything particularly wrong with what (s)he said, but people SHOULD learn to be more careful with what they say. There's nothing wrong with choosing your words wisely. It's not the type of thing that requires a lot of brains. It was very nice of her/him to talk to his/her ex, but makes no difference. I'm sure her/his ex wasn't all bent out of shape about her/his comment, but obviously OP felt bad enough about what (s)he said to write an FML about it. That leads me to believe that (s)he her/himself regretted saying it and will most likely be more careful.

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@38: be more careful? i don't see why not, but in this situation (as you've noted) there's nothing wrong with what OP said. she shouldn't feel bad about it. if anything, she needs to learn how to handle the situation thereafter, whether her ex graciously accepts her joke or not. with that said, it's a bit of a jump to assume we know why she felt bad. reading the post again, it could also be perceived that she approached in hopes of making him feel worse, only to have it backfire on her. anywho, i still completely agree with Isantos

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Hrm, you pretty much agreed with everything I said. The FML can be perceived anyway you want it to be. Hell, you could read it and by the end, draw the conclusion that chickens were flying out of her ass. It's all a matter of interpretation. I'm also doubting she went up to him with the intent to make him feel worse, given the fact that was on a date and generally when people are on a date they are trying to impress that person. To me, saying that in a joking way or not, it's not funny. Like I said, there's nothing wrong with watching what you say. Sheesh, some peoples kids.

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@FFML_314: hrm, no i didn't. whereas you support the idea that OP should have been more careful DESPITE there being no harm in what she said, i support the idea that BECAUSE there was no harm in what she said, being careful is unnecessary. see the difference? because you'd have to be a complete r'tard who concludes that chickens flew out of her ass if you don't see the difference. so is that how the general consensus impress their dates? by approaching their ex?! sheesh, some people's kids.

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