By anonymous - 19/11/2016 18:35 - Canada - New Westminster
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But just imagine you're on a first date, and already there's a crazy ex starting drama. Sometimes people don't want to get caught up in that. I doubt it was because she took the ex's side and believed her. My had a friend whose boyfriend's crazy ex was always around and harassing her. To most, a crazy ex is a red flag. Unfortunate for OP, but I don't blame the girl.
#12, If OP is not necessarily a bad person, but that he and the ex were just bad for each other- you have a good point. But if the ex was warning the new girl about theft, cheating, or especially a history of abuse in their past relationship-that's different. The new girl has a right to know. It would actually be unfair NOT to tell her.
#12) Exes can be very biased but they can also be very right about their exes too. I know that's my ex-boyfriend, for example, is a guy who hunts for certain types of girls and wants to convert them forcefully and he verbally abuses them until they fall apart. BUT, I also know my ex doesn't show his true colours until much later. So basically, scenario 1) I walk into a restaurant, see him with some girl who is about to get pounced on.. And I feel the urge to save the girl from him. And I speak my mind. Or, scenario 2) My ex actually wasn't the crazy converter, and I'm just a jealous ex and saw him with a girl and wanted to destroy things. -- So, knowing the background of the story really matters. It's only FHL if he's actually a good person. There's just this stereotype that exes are "liars, crazy, obsessive, jealous" and so on. This is NOT always the case. It's always important to remember that there are two types of exes too and not stereotype that their opinions are baseless because they're "biased". Well.. Yes, my opinions ARE biased for my ex who abused me. But they're also correct and he IS like that. Hope that explains everything. Cheers.
This FML is tricky, I don't know what to vote. Your ex could really have been terrible or maybe you were actually a bad boyfriend..
If she's gonna believe some girl that just showed up without giving you a chance you're better off anyway.