By mafille - 19/03/2015 03:22 - France
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Little guys already writing himself a one way ticket to the friend zone
56, because no one owes anyone their affection. It's incredibly aggravating when people have a crush on a friend, don't bother saying anything, start doing nice things for that person, and then get indignant when that person doesn't return feelings. People who keep claiming they were friend zoned need to grow the fuck up. I know I already said it, but I'm going to say it again. No one owes ANYONE their affection.
I'm guessing the people who thumbed them down are "in the friendzone". And that's seriously what it is. No one talks about friendzone unless they are complaining or saying the person is horrible or whoever they are dating is horrible(may or may not be true anyone turns horrible when they get something you want)
59, I totally disagree. The friend zone is used by people who aren't mature enough to accept that affection isn't required. A lot of the time, the people who say they're friend zoned are using it to make the person who didn't return feelings look bad. It's fine to be upset, but sitting there acting like they owed you something because you liked them is insane.
All the friendzone is unrequited love just a different term. I have been friendzoned and of course I am not happy about it. I also say to them that I wanted more than that and they say they aren't willing,but willing to be friends I also have the right to say no I don't want to be your friend. Now the person doing the last thing is considered more of an asshole. Why? They wanted something more and instead of being hurt for so long they left the relationship entirely that is also their right as a person.
No, that person is an asshole because they feel like they're entitled to the affection of someone, and then act like a petulant toddler and go "FINE! I won't be your friend at all!" then storm off and brood. If you're not mature enough to accept rejection, you should just stay away from relationships completely. No one wants to deal with that shit, and you'll quickly get a bad reputation if you consistently behave like that. Is behaving like a twat your right? Yes indeedy! But don't be surprised when it comes back to bite you in the ass, and it will.
What about the people who tell the person they like them and the person says "oh I only think of you as a friend" technically they're in the friendzone but what if they don't bitch or moan or wine about it but accepts it and continues to just be friends? Not everyone who is in the friendzone is an asshole.
87- Why does that have to have a special name though? Is it really that difficult to say "S/he just likes me as a friend"? Saying that you're "in the friendzone" just makes it sound as if the person who has rejected you has done something wrong by only thinking of you as a friend.
OK, lets get a few things straight. Rejection is something to be dealt with maturely, yes. Friendzoning on the other hand should be condemned for the emotional leeching that it is. What "I only like you as a friend" really means is "You are unattractive, but your attention is good for my ego so I will string you along with no regard for your pain over unreturned emotions". That is friendzoning, and it SHOULD be used as a shaming term to women who do that.
The slave scenario (as 61 mentioned) does happen in school. However, for a 6 year old to be doing that is a bit weird in my opinion. But the bigger issue I think is the "don't pay attention to him" as if he doesn't mean anything. Usually when you're doing the "if you do this I'll be your slave" it doesn't mean you wouldn't introduce the person to your parents or that you treated them like crap, you usually just made them carry books and things. And even weirder, I don't know anyone that was doing that game that young. Usually that was in middle school or something. If I were op I'd have a talk with her to explain what's appropriate and find out if they're just joking around or if your daughter is starting to be a diva/drama queen and is already walking all over people.
Also keep in mind that 6-year-olds probably don't understand all the really bad connotations to slavery yet (dehumanizing, lack of rights, kidnap, etc). For them, it probably just means "(s)he has to do what I tell them until X time because of a game/favor they owe me." In fact, if they asked an adult what the word meant, they'd probably receive a child-friendly answer like "someone who has no choice but to listen to orders." That, to me, makes it a little less strange (since their intentions are innocent)... but if it bothers OP so much she should just talk to her daughter about the more negative side of slavery (obviously not with great detail) and explain that owning slaves is not something to be proud of.