By Anonymous - 22/08/2015 09:44 - New Zealand - Auckland
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Just a thought. ~IF~ you're saying you can't believe you married her and calling her a neurotic wreck to her face and not just online, it probably isn't helping make her any less neurotic/paranoid. It sounds like there's something going on with her mental health that needs to be addressed like any other illness. Sit down and have a talk with her about her insecurity and find out how you two can make it subside - she needs support, not exasperation, if you ever want her to improve. Even so, what she did wasn't cool. Keep working out. You're going to look and feel awesome.
Since when is "openly" being a miserable harpy something to applaud? Next time your boyfriend yells at you that you're a cheating skank, I want you to applaud him for being "open". You'd slap him and call him a controlling pig. Nobody is that dense & out of touch with reality, sorry. Log off the internet and splash some cold water on your face.
as a woman battling borderline personality disorder and abandonment issues, I can totally see how she could come to that conclusion. yes. at times I can come off as 'neurotic'. however, what she needs is extra love and patience. if shes anything like myself, she hates it at least TWICE as much as you do. its not fun being crazy.
Look at it like this. 99 percent of the time when they start becoming neurotic freaks about you starting to look good and do something for yourself, they are hiding something and she sees that your bettering yourself in more ways then one. Don't let a chick hold you down, one that is Heath, and two "you do you" meaning worry about your Heath and what makes you feel good and if she can't support then then bounce. At the end of the day, do what make you feel good. If she was a supportive wife and in a healthy relationship she would be in the gym with you vs. gaining LBs on the couch. Take it for what it is I'm not trying to tear her down at all but maybe take a look at what the real problem is bro, I have been there a time or two. Best of luck to you!
No it doesn't mean they are hiding something. A LOT a of the time it means they were hurt before. However, I agree, she COULD go to the gym with him, thing is, has he invited her or do they have kids that they have to care for where they can't both go at the same time? He needs to be more supportive and be open. When people start randomly bettering themselves there usually is a reason, and he should tell her why, not ask why he married her and bitch online.
Oh, cool. So when he tries to work out, she doesn't need to support him. She can call him a cheater. Then HE NEEDS TO SUPPORT HER, because he deserves whatever abusive shit she spouts, and should get down on his knees and beg her to forgive him for improve his health without her. If the gender roles were reversed this feed would be clogged with women telling her to "dump him".
@24, Accusations of infidelity are never a "minor argument." By the time that accusation is leveled, warranted or not, much of the trust is gone in a relationship. I am not advocating divorce, but this is a serious problem, not a minor squabble over the dinner table.
Because being married to a man who gets fat and never showers is so much better than a man who actually takes care of himself ! I can understand she's afraid of seeing you go to other women but assuming you are really doing it... Since she married you she should trust you more.
This could be a sign that she herself is cheating and thinking you are doing the same. It could be that she reads a lot of magazines, you know the sort that have them crappy "is your partner cheating" quiz BS in them, and contain pretty much nothing but cheating partner stories. Hire a detective.