By Thanksmom - 18/03/2016 06:23 - United States - Riverside
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Point out that you wouldn't need to take hers if she stopped taking yours
It does not matter if the mother bought the clothes, if they were purchased with the intention of being for her kid, then they are not the mother's clothes, they are the kid's clothes, so they actually have all the say. It's controlling and manipulative to claim entitlement over something when you get something for someone else. It's almost like giving a gift, if you purchase something for someone else, it now belong to them, which means you need to ask if you want to use it.
She's probably just being cautious, so that you don't find her hidden items in there. That hidden object might be a powerful back massager.
There's definitely some skeletons in that closet....or just you know...vibrators.
My best friend had a similar problem, only part was her mom would not only wear her clothes, but completely take them and put them in her own closet. Sometimes she'd get new clothes, only wear them once, and then they'd disappear and she'd find it months/years later in her mom's closet. Eventually she got fed up and put a lock on her bedroom door because she was tired of her clothes going missing. I think it's fine to share clothes, but ask permission first, unless there's a mutual understanding that you're going to share. Also, don't be hypocritical, if you use other people's clothes, you can't complain about them using yours.