By Anonymous - 26/10/2009 04:27 - United States

Today, my husband's daughter told us that she's 5 months pregnant. I'm going to be a step grandmother and I'm only 23 years old. FML
I agree, your life sucks 23 099
You deserved it 48 175

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How old IS your husband's daughter?

Let's say that, theoretically, the husband is not creepy old. The formula for the maximum difference in age without it being creepy is age/2+7. So, the oldest the husband could be without it being creepy is 32. If we assume that they JUST got married, and dated for more than a few weeks before getting married, I'd say the OP was probably 22 when they met, and the husband could've been 30 at most without it being creepy. So if the husband is now 31, then either he had his daughter at 15 and his daughter is 15 now, or maybe he was 16 and she's 14, or some other combination. Or he's a creepy old dude who marries younger women. Either way, YDI for either marrying an old guy, or for marrying a guy who had a kid when he was a teenager. You picked a classy guy, and so you get a guy with an obviously classy daughter. YDI.

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How old IS your husband's daughter?

I'd rather ask how old is her husband ! (OP, you won't biologically be a grandmother, though...)

Let's say that, theoretically, the husband is not creepy old. The formula for the maximum difference in age without it being creepy is age/2+7. So, the oldest the husband could be without it being creepy is 32. If we assume that they JUST got married, and dated for more than a few weeks before getting married, I'd say the OP was probably 22 when they met, and the husband could've been 30 at most without it being creepy. So if the husband is now 31, then either he had his daughter at 15 and his daughter is 15 now, or maybe he was 16 and she's 14, or some other combination. Or he's a creepy old dude who marries younger women. Either way, YDI for either marrying an old guy, or for marrying a guy who had a kid when he was a teenager. You picked a classy guy, and so you get a guy with an obviously classy daughter. YDI.

@birds, Just curious, did you get that equation from XKCD? I remember seeing something similar on there a while ago!

The "half plus 7" rule has been around way longer than XKCD. I like Randall as much as the next nerd, but he is not the progenitor of every funny thing he uses in his comics.

hell yeah and where does she live?

i could see this. The stepdaughter is 13 years old, and the husband is around 27-30 years old, which means he got a girl pregnant when he was 14-17 years old, which is possible. Its possible hes older than her.

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Well, OP, my 36 year old step-mother, who is a VERY proud step-grandmother always says the same thing about that matter: "That's what happens when you marry old people."

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better question is how old is ur husband?!

yea thats what i was thinking.

Marrying someone in there mid to late 30's isn't creepy if she's only 23. He could be 38 and seem very young. My boyfriend will be 39 next month and can still pass for 25. Active people look younger.

It's shouldn't have married. Not shouldn't of. I don't get why people always confuse those two. I'm from Germany and I still get it right. Anyway, age doesn't matter when it comes to love. Sure, it's a bit creepy when a 20 year old marries a 100 year old dude, but 23 and 35.... Not that bad.

245, it's because those morons always say "should've", which kind of sounds like "should of" - they're too dumb to realize that "should've" means "should have"

Ew. Then obviously you're too young to be with this guy!

4-the FML clearly says STEP GRANDMOTHER.! Learn how to read before you correct people. -_-

I was just telling somebody today that saying 'should of' in place of 'should have' is one of those errors that really bugs me. I'm not a grammar nazi, I don't claim to always punctuate everything right and once in a while I get one word confused with another, although it's fairly rare. But so many people write 'should of' or 'could of'and that is one thing that annoys the crap out of me because they don't even realize that they are completely using the wrong word. I don't know every grammar rule, but I am an impeccable speller and I think I have pretty good grammar, and this generation's lack of knowing or even caring pisses me off.

I think 4 was simply trying to alleviate her angst, douche...

punctuate everything correctly*

Ergh that's something you just don't want to have to deal with until you're way older! Your husband must be pretty old hehe

So? I was born a great aunt. My mom was married at 29 and became a grandma.

are you going to finish comment later

This makes absolutely no sense.

Can someone explain to me why I cracked up when I read this?

this makes no sense...

Either your husband is old. or his daughter is a hoe.

Can't it be both? 56 year old guy with a 15 year old daughter would tick both boxes.

you really should learn how to spell ho, you hoe.

It's actually supposed to be WHORE, so just shut the fuck up.

Or to be more technical about it, you'd only be a step-grandmother. Not so bad when you put it that way is it? Still, the kids are going to call you gran whatever the case.

The FML says step grandmother.

Yeah, and when your husband will die of old age, you'll be only 50. Think before you act...

Or she could be older, like 60. You do realize there are tons of people who lose their spouse at or before age 60 to things other than old age? Do you think they'd go back and not marry the person if they knew they'd be widowed/a widower a couple decades before they thought? Maybe they'd rather only spend thirty or forty years with someone they're madly in love with than fifty or sixty years with someone they can stand.

or she could be 23. the fml says "i'm only 23 years old."

I meant she could be older than 50 when he dies.

The only way I could think of it is if you were pregnant at 11. That or since you said your husband's daughter, I'd assume your husband is much older than you (and that's a little creeping in itself, if he's old enough to have a grandchild and you're 23). I think #2 is more likely.

So let's say her husband's 30. He knocked up a girl at 15, and somehow managed to gain custody of the child (actually, he doesn't even need to for this to work). Then the daughter got knocked up at 15. A 7-year (or so) age discrepancy between husband/wife wouldn't be too bad....

This is almost exactly what I was just typing. So yeah, THIS.

Agreed! My parents are 7 years apart, so it's really not that unusual. I also know many couples who are anywhere from 6 to 15 years apart. The older you are, the less it seems to matter to people. Still, I can see why the OP is feeling weirded out. :)

She obviously married a much older man and his daughter can be about the same age as the OP. To me the funny part is that if the OP has kids with her old husband, then the daughter's kid is going to have aunts and uncles younger than it.

why does he need custody to be a grandpa

He would need custody to take care of his daughter... they wern't talking about custody of the new baby.

Well, technically he doesn't _need_ to have custody. Just having brought the daughter into the world was enough for this to work.

this is the stuff im learning in math.. they should make a question like this if suzies step mom is 23, and you're pregnant, how old is the dad? i wouldnt be able to figure it out

Yeah that might be how it is, but its pretty rare for a mother to get knocked up at 15 then have that daughter get knocked up 15 also, so he most likely is over 30.

actually, it is proven that if you are a teen parent, there is a higher chance of your kids becoming teen parents. Therefore being, it is most likely that he did have his kid when he was a teenager.

jeez... how old is your husband...