By AreYouSerious - United States
Today, my husband and I decided to take a romantic trip to the beach. We got pulled over, and shortly thereafter he was arrested. Just so happens you can't miss child support payments for your twelve year old daughter without getting a warrant. He has a daughter? We've been married for 14 years. FML
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  ariean  |  0

..that doesnt make sense. The kid has her own mother. She should feel bad though that her father is a married man who cheated on his wife with her mother and the result was her.

It really sucks for you OP because this is your husband of 14 yrs and all that time he kept this hidden from you! my only guess was in his defense he didnt tell you because he didnt want to admit he cheated and you leave him. still what an ass twice over, for cheating and for not telling. the kid is almost as old as your marriage! Also, how can you not know in 12yrs that he pays child support?

  iwadasn  |  32

She shouldn't feel bad that she's the result of a man cheating on his wife. The father should, and the mom should, if she knew that he was married, but the daughter had no control over the circumstances of her conception and has nothing to feel guilty about.


No, it is bad for the kid. Not so much the stepmom not knowing you exist part, but the fact that your father never intended on taking care of you, never helped pay for you to survive, and probably never bothered visiting you. In her mind, she must often feel that she isn't worth much.

  lisafannypack  |  0

i think that #50 was a response to #23, so what i think he is try to say that the kid might end up feeling that way, which sucks for the kid, not that the kid SHOULD feel that way.

  yellowIA  |  0

I agree with most of what you said but the point is, he DIDN'T pay the support payments. That's probably how she never found out. It may have just caught up with him. This super sucks though.


#88 Wow you take things way too serious. As if you know either one of the people involved in the situation. these are people's opinion so why are stop calling them names for something they feel. I mean really calm down. just breathe laceypatrickson.

  thesunshotme  |  0

It's not her fault her husband is a lying, cheating asshole. You'd be surprised at how deceptive people can be.

Also, F the daughter's life for having that guy for a father.

  whiskerkitten  |  0

my stepdaughter is one. my husband and I have been married four years. how DARE you assume that she should share ANY responsibility for something she had absolutely no control over?

By  Luckster  |  0

This is gonna be one hell of a divorce....and people can get warrants for missing Child Support payments? My crack-head mom didn't pay my Dad for 18 years! Must be an Oregon thing.

  Darth_Taco  |  14

No, it's nation-wide. It's just not well known.

As to the woman this happened to, you're probably not alone XP. I recommend you calm down, then make a decision from there. Personally, I would slash open his nut sack. Then again, I'm 19 and have a bad temper :P.

  Sexxi  |  0

Its a well known fact only men are responsible for child support payments. if women dump the kid off on the father they dont have to pay a dime

  Vaetrus  |  0

I'm with #18. You need counselling #14.

Sucks to be the wife, kid, and the kid's mom. Although at least she's about to get the money. I don't pity the guy, you reap what you sow. Especially kids.

  mommy2cassidy  |  18

#99 if the childs mother knew he was married it's not a FHL. The child is not to blame and neither is the wife but it takes a really skanky woman (or man, I'm not sexist) to sleep with a married/in any form of relationship man (or woman, again not sexist) and the mother is just as much to blame for the cheating if she knew he was married.