who cares if there is.?!

Yous trollin' !

i hate girls who call their bf's jealous when they talk to guys using the same excuse everytime saying omg he's just a friend and then when a guy is taking to other girls his gf says guys are such jerks hes probably cheating on me. anyways... why do girls bother getting into relationships if they are just going to take to a million guys and go out with them anyways.. its obviously going to cause problems in the relationship..if u want to be all flirty and talk to lots of guys then just stay single.. if you've been in a relationship for like a year or more and its serious between you and your boyfriend than its obvious that your group of guy friends will be a lot smaller than it was before u got into a relationship... theres obviously a couple of guy friends that might be your very close guy friends even from like a childhood that you grew up with that your bf should not tell you to stop talking to.. but out of respect for your bf if the relationship means anything theres no reason why a girl should always be talking to lots of guys or going to bars with them and to the movies

So what you are saying is that in order to have a boyfriend I need to drop all my guy friends that I have been friends with for 15 years? You are as pathetic as OP's boyfriend.

i never said that... i dont know what you are reading.. im saying that when u are in a serious relationship.. usually you aren't going to have as many guy friends as you did before the relationship.. it gets a little suspicious when a girl has a bf and shes always talking to other guys... when ur spending lots of time with ur bf.. w.e time u have left is usually spent doing school work at work with family or trying to hang out with your girlfriends.. so over time you will have way less guy friends... otherwise you are just to immature to be in a relationship.. and i never agreed with op's bf deleting her contacts.... he shouldnt be going through her phone regardless

I think you are mistaking 'guy friends' with 'potential boyfriends'. Just because I'm dating someone, doesn't make my guy friends vanish in a puff of smoke. These are the guys that I have had around me for years. These are the guys that have been looking out for me, long before I even met my bf. And if my bf and I break up, who do you think is going to be there to console me. You guessed it. So do you really think that me having a bf is going to, in any way, change my relationship with my friends?

are you saying you don't have any girlfriends ..you are clearly still a teenager then or have never been in a serious relationship.. as you get older you will realize that you will have far fewer friends because your life wont revolve around socializing.. you will be working and eventually other things will become a priority... if you are in a serious relationship.. your bf is your number 1 priority and then everything else.. its natural that your group of guy friends becomes smaller.. its one thing to talk to guys at school and at work that you are friends with and its another thing to have a bf and spend the days your not with him hanging out with other guy 'friends' going to like bars and stuff all the time.. its disrespectful to your bf to do that unless its like your best guy friends birthday.. and its also disrespectful for a guy to do that to his gf.. im not saying guys can do w.e they want and girls should be listening to their bf's.. im just saying there should be some respect in a relationship that goes both ways.. this makes a relationship actually last more than a week.. this is why high school relationships dont usually last more than a month or two because teenagers are to immature and not ready to be in committed relationships.. thats why they shouldn't be worrying about rushing into relationships.. my point is its just weird for a girl in a real relationship that matters to her.. to be spending a lot of time talking and flirting to a lot of guys... when your married do you go out with guys all the time and text them at night? no right?

You are so far off, its actually scary. I have 1 close girlfriend, but she moved to England, so we only get to talk once a month or so. I have 3 very close guy friends. I'm not a teenager, so I don't 'hang-out' with them. We share in each others lives. When they marry I will be at their weddings. I'll probably be god-mother to their kids. Usually my boyfriend is with me when I see them, but he doesn't need to be. I live with my boyfriend, so I spend plenty enough time with him. Luckily he knows how much I love them, and has made every effort to be friends with them too. To an outsider it would probably look like they are his friends, and I'm just the girlfriend. But he and I both know that I am the reason they are friends. And if he and I part ways, they will be the ones consoling me and telling me that I "don't need him anyway" and all the other things that friends say to each other to help get over lost love. Don't assume that you can't have a meaningful relationship with a woman that doesn't involve sex. Most of all, don't allow your significant other to tell you who you may or may not be friends with. If that relationship ends, who will help you pick up the pieces?

ya and you said 3 close friends.. which is a big difference from a girl who has a bf and is always flirting texting calling going for drinks with 20 or 30 different guys.. its completely normal to have a few close guy friends.. thats not what im trying to say.. im just saying how in a true relationship your not spending as much time with other guys besides your bf... or with as many guys... im not saying because you have a bf that you are not allowed to talk to a guy.. its not natural for a girl to not talk to a guy just because she has a bf.. and op's bf shouldnt be going through her phone because its her phone and not his. its her personal belongings he shouldnt be snooping around...

i have plenty of female friends, and that number never changes once i'm in a relationship. if having a girlfriend has any negative effect on my preexisting friendships, she's an unhealthy addition to my life. i would never give up my social life for a relationship; i've fought long and hard to get where i am.

Man, Kenny, you are one sexist mofo. A girl isn't 'serious' if she has guy friends? Because all women just flirt around and keep their guys close for rebounds or secret affairs. Way to be extremely and retardedly narrow-minded. If these are your opinions of a serious relationship, I shudder to think of what you perceive marriage to be like.

Monogamy is not stupid provided both partners are: a) willing to stay exclusive. b) mature/intelligent individuals who understand this concept. Monogamy doesn't automatically mean one person's cheating on the other. If they're cheating, they're not mature enough or willing to be monogamous; if they agreed on being monogamous they certainly don't understand the definition.