By pleasekillme - 19/04/2013 11:44 - United Kingdom - Brighton
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TBh, I think the OP should move out with the other housemate...and not tell creepy stalker guy where they have moved to. Getting smeone kicked out can be a long and difficult process, and even if he had a restraining order he still might pick the locks, smash a window, or react violently to being left outside what he considers "his" house.
idk what its likes in the UK but here i'd think picking the lock is the wrong term. in most indoor locks I've seen the inside locks and instead of having a key for the outside there's a hole that you just stick a little rode with a flat piece on the end into. because I mean why would someone use a key to lock off the bathroom from the outside?
Call the police. Nothing good is going to come out of letting this slide.
@Howie my guess is that the apartment is in his name or something along those lines. its hard to fight invasion of privacy when said area doesn't belong to you. moving out on the other hand is completely viable if the flats in his name. and entering a shower with the wrong person isn't necessarily criminal unless of course he then forced himself upon her.
Pepper Spray! Usually keeps the creepers speechless for a while!
What you two have said is very true sadly. However, with a restraining order in hand if this creeper pulls anything like this again, and he will, they will have the law on their side and can effectively have him removed from the premises by the police. And he might even have to face a short jail time and/probation for violating the restraining order against him. But I'm really not familiar with what happens when restraining orders are violated and especially not in the UK.
You raise an excellent point! Even if all the restraining order does is document the problem and notify the police of a stalker problem at this moment and a possible crime in the future, then I'd say get it just for that reason alone. It's always best to leave a paper trail. Should this head into the courtroom in the future, having several documents reporting the incidents would make it so much easier for them to prove that this has been a recurring issue and that something seriously needs to be done to put a stop to it once and for all!
as I pointed out before, either they have all their names on the lease or it could be in his name which makes it quite hard to say you're a creap get off our property. once again if they move then take out a restraining order it would work fine. though depending on how the contract is written up it might be very hard to get out if all of them signed the lease/mortage.
That's Norman Bates creepy .... Moving out wud keep u safe but not yr roomie, get the guy arrested or admitted