By Toolate - 10/10/2012 08:26 - United States - Bristol
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Sorry to hear that, but if you really loved her you wouldn't have let her go
Or maybe it wasn't really something that he had much a choice in. For example, I ended things with one of my more recent exes because her job would have her working a long way away from me almost all the time. I still loved her then, and I still miss her constantly. OP most likely had a similar situation, though the circumstance that made him do so was probably different.
You shouldn't break up with someone you love. If it is hard, then you TRY to make it hurt. Yes, that means a long distance relationship or barely seeing them. If it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be. But you need to FIGHT for someone to love, not just let them go.
I'm actually in a very similar situation to this, except there's no engagement. I broke up with her a year and a half ago after a year of being together. I broke up with her because I had just been diagnosed with a terrible mental disorder, and I loved her enough not to put her through dealing with it anymore. My disorder is now under control and I'm...pretty much normal,and still madly in love with her, but she has a boyfriend now. It kills me. Don't assume stuff about people's lives.
Um, he let her go. And yeah, never let the ones you love get away. And why were you at her surprise party?
Perdix, it usually is. I have no sympathy for the Original Poster: he appears to think she would eventually come back around and he never spoke up before it was too late. Who wants their significant other to never speak up when the time is right? (I know I'm being harsh but I have had 3 ex-boyfriends try to win me back way too late.)
Ouch, OP! Didn't you know she was seeing someone else? I said FYL cause it had to hurt, but YDI because you tormented yourself by going.
This might sound cynical but half of marriages end in divorce so maybe wait a few years and if he becomes available again
If you really love her, then you'll be happy that she's happy. No matter how painful it is, (and it probably hurts like a bitch) be happy for her. Stay at the party, congratulate the fiancé, tell him he's a lucky man, and have a good time. And then go home, eat ice-cream while playing 'Jar of Hearts', and cry yourself to sleep.
How long have you all been apart? If your still in love after years I'd say its time to move on. If its been a couple months then she's really jumping the gun on the whole marriage thing.
Really? I still love my ex boyfriend even after 5 years. It is hard to move on if they are still in your life, which I am guessing he is because he was invited to her surprise B-day party. Time does not matter when it comes to love. He may move on but a part of him may always love her.
If things have ended don't be nostalgic and sit in misery. Yeah things can be hard or uncomfortable, but its even worse to hold yourself back when clearly things have ended. I'm sure the other half isn't sulking around either or else you'd probably be back together after 5 years.