I hope you had a long talk...Talk about invasion of privacy.

parents should be aware of what their kids are doing on line and on their phones. If they (the kids) are doing nothing wrong, they have nothing to worry about. And legally....the phone is probably in her name anyway...and she probably pays the bill. So in actuality, it is her phone.

agreed completely.. should always know what your kids are doing with their phones. I was a substitute for a while in middle schools.. there was this one day I heard the word nude in every class period that passed... phones are being given to kids without supervision too early now.. my first phone was in middle school which was not that long ago ether and it didn't even have a camera. I see middle scholars with better phones than the one I have now..

Middle school students *

You should be able to trust your child. If you're invading their privacy, how can you expect them to go to you when they have problems?

If parents want to know they should talk to their kids not snoop through their phone. It's just like a couple, you wouldn't go through your significant others phone because you trust them. You should trust your kids, unless you've been seeing odd behavior then question your child but don't go through their phone.

Just so everyone knows. I never delete my messages and let almost anyone into my phone but have a lock for obvious reasons.

um way to assume people. who says op is a "kid"? what if they are old enough to pay for their own phone, therefor giving another person zero legal rights to look through it?

in my opinion, anyone jumping to the conclusion that the mom is in the right for looking at the phone is DEAD WRONG.

I disagree in so many ways. being online and texting is dangerous nowadays. IF I allow my daughter to have a phone and I am concerned about her wellbeing, it is my right as a parent to make sure she's being safe. if Amanda Todd's parents had looked into her texting/online habits she might still be alive.

@23 my mom owns the line to our phones and her mom is one of the people who is on our plan. you forget to include some of those who also have their parents living with them or vice versa who might have to deal with this

97, I agree. Some of the parents in my extended families let their kid (around 10-14) have an iPod, but they let their child know that they will be checking their messages once in awhile and are allowed to see what they're up to on it. The child has to agree to those terms if they want the iPod/iPhone. The parents usually talk about what they've been doing on their messaging, Instagram, etc, as oppose to just looking, but they have also checked the iPod/iPhone out to see. These kids all have incredible relationships with their parents and have never complained about it. If your child is between 10-15 then I think it's ok knowing what's going on. Especially because there are situations where people like Amanda Todd and so many others could've possibly been saved if their parents were checking. I think there are too many sickos on the Internet and too many naive kids that don't know when they're being targeted. I see both sides of the argument, but I'd rather be safe than sorry, even if my kid doesn't like it.

better stop sexting then...

She probably wasn't sexting and even if she were, no one else has any right to go through private business like that just because they're bored or can't sleep. someone needs to buy this woman a book.

omg #72 you can clearly tell there being sarcastic

where ?

Sounds like you two need to have a serious talk about privacy. and it might be a good idea to put a password on your phone for in the future

I will never understand why people don't respect privacy.

Curiousity is the only reason I can think of it's not hard to understand.

My mom actually used to do the same thing and to this day I still get paranoid about leaving my computer or phone unlocked.

Parents of young kids do it because they're trying to keep their kids safe and don't believe their children will be honest about certain situations. Many kids lie and hide depression, suicidal thoughts, bullying, or relationships they know they shouldn't be having (like with an adult or someone from the Internet they've never met). Just listing some of the reasons. Although in this case it kind of sounds like op may be an adult herself, and her mom is just crazy.

A tip for this: start sending texts about how your mom is pushy and invasive in your private life. She'd love that.

OP probably woke up to his mom in the room. In such an occasion, I wouldn't think she'd continue the act. She'd probably find another valuable pastime..

Her*

Next time she goes through your phone take pictures of her sleeping and watch her freakout

Thats just a tad bit creepy.

Clearly you have a very interesting life if she always comes in to read your messages!

No, apparently not. Because his/hers text messages are so boring that mom reads them to help her fall asleep.

Yup, didn't think of it that way but you're right.

YDI for not having a password lock on your phone.

I do! She makes me give it to her. Now I know why...

So you know how iPhones have the fingerprint unlocker option? I'm guessing she uses his finger in the middle of the night

even if he did have TouchID,it would only work with his fingerprint,unless she made a fingerprint herself

#8 Don't assume everybody has a phone with a password/code/finger lock. My phone doesn't even have that.

I suggest changing the lock code very often. if she constantly is asking for the code, she must be constantly trying to get into it. Also change it and don't tell her.

I agree on the setup texts. Like have a discussion on where to hide the body etc..

Next time you should either set an alarm to scare her or leave a message on your phone telling her to stop