By Is_This_Real - 13/09/2016 02:34 - United States - Pittsburgh
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That really sucks, but if this was a legitimate mistake on his part you should probably let it go
When someone says they want to pretend the event that just occurred never happened and have no interest in telling anyone, they consider what just happened a mistake. This is exactly what the friend told OP, so yes, he considers sleeping with her a mistake. It is a nasty things to say, and it probably hurts to hear, but that's how he feels.
I know what you mean but although things suck for the OP it's not like he used her or was dishonest in any way. That's why I'm not fond of saying this was his mistake. Yeah he says he'd like to pretend it didn't happen but that's after OP said she'd like it to be more. It could just be a clumsy way to try to revert to being just friends.
so now you know he's not it. an please OP, please whatever you do, don't let him use you for sex or that -friends with benefits, but don't let anyone know- shit! for the sake of all of us truly loving women, fight the desire of being with that heartless guy and start loving and respecting yourself more!!
So when a dude is not interested in a serious relationship, he's heartless? And when a woman does decide she's ok with a friends-with-benefits-type of thing, that means she's not loving and respecting herself enough? I mean, don't get me wrong, I do think that in this case it would probably be a bad idea, as OP has feelings for the guy, but your well-meant advise sounds awfully judgemental.
I don't think beginning any relationship with sex will lead you anywhere you want to be.. Until you know someone's darkest secrets and carry them as your own will you truly have what you seek and that is Something that isn't immune to being materialistic and also knowing no one is perfect is a good place to start forgiveness is the only way to true happiness