OP, FYL. I went through this exact same issue but it was 8 different girls, personal friends he knew in real life AND I was pregnant with his child.

mm had a similar thing with me and the bf a month ago. My 26yr old bf was sending 'your hot' messages to random chicks all over the world on facebook. and then sent a 'your hot, lets have sex' to some chick in asia. *we are in australia*. It was the only one, hes not smart enough to delete his sent messages. I even found one to some chick that was constantly calling him and his message to her was "im sorry I have a gf, I was only joking, we cant meet I dont cheat". So that kinda gave him points. Reason how i found out, I checked up on him when he left his account logged in on my computer like always since a friend was lke 'your bf sent me a your gorgus message when he added me'. I got the *****, almost dumped him. It took me three days to figure out what I was going to do. I decided that I was pretty sure that he hasnt done anything *as of yet anyhow* we are together 24/7 unless working, I couldnt dump on pretense. However, I sat him down.. told him what I found out.. put him in my shoes.. asked why he was doing it and what the reason behind it was.. The response was that 'theres no reason or purpose. I was bored. its the internet, its facebook, im only having a laugh. Noone takes it seriously'. so we talked about it, i told him how he lost the trust I had in him, and that if i found out hes done anything or continued this then its over no questions asked and ill have his dick removed. Also told him there is no difference between 'internet relationships' and 'next door relationships'. cheating is cheating, its wrong. Ive saved his username and password, but hate the fact that I feel I need to check up on him so I havent as of yet.. In your case, A marriage is *supposed to be* more solid then a dating relationship. I don't understand why guys dont get how wrong thier actions can be. I hope you make him realise how wrong it is, how you feel about the situation and how serious it is to have your trust. Maybe some councelling will help? I half agree with the "If they were given a chance, theyd take it" but being pretty much in your shoes I'm hoping loyalty will win without. But then again the thought in the matter is the most important thing, but we cannot know if your husband thought he was really going to meet her or my bf was going to have sex with someone across the world.

Okay, so by "girlfriend" do you mean someone he is having an emotional attachment to, or a female friend? If he is having an emotional affair and putting his trust in her, then something is defiantly up with your relationship and borderlines an affair. If he is just sharing pics with a girl on the internet... well something is wrong that you want sex and can't get it, but if you were unavailable due to conflicting schedules, then is it really that big of a deal?

Its not cheating, & you are the one to blame for no sex happening. You must be really ugly if no guy will do you, even in the dark with a bag on your both your heads, from behind.

Gurl get urself a fine new man. take a long vaction somewhere and have urself some fun!..... without ur ass of a man

It's called "alienation of affection". There are still states where one can sue people for this. Bullshit on it not being cheating.

This may not "technically" be cheating, but it's the beginning stages of just that - cheating. If you hadn't found out and stepped in, it probably would have gone further. Find out why he did this - it's a 2 way street, and there is a reason that he has done this. That being said, if he refuses to hange or do anything about it, then get a good lawyer and divorce him.

i'm going through the exact same thing right now too, with my fiance. he had been flirty with his female friends from his past, and even had added some slutty looking chicks on facebook, who then emailed him and told him to check out her "videos" on some **** site. he replied with "i don't want to sign up for any acounts, is there anywhere else i can see them?" this is a girl who lives in our same city and he is asking her to send him her **** videos. he also emailed an ex f-buddy suggesting that they meet up alone. I'm devistated.

I think he's right He's just speaking with some guy, who is laughing his ass off, and sending him random **** pictures from the Internet.

Your husband's messed up if he just has a girlfriend for the fun of it. If it's on a more sexual matter, talk to him about it, and try to figure out what's wrong. Obviously it's still cheating, but maybe he does because he has to cheat because your not...having fun with him enough.