Today, I came out as transgender to my extremely accepting and religious family over Facebook. My feed is currently flooded with plans for my exorcism. FML
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Today, I came out of the closet. I came out on Facebook to spare myself awkward conversations and gossip. I wrote a deeply meaningful status about my partner and my pride in who I was. The only responses were, "Lol", "Hacked", and similar remarks. FML
Today, I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years after finally realizing I'm a lesbian. He then outed me to my very religious and conservative family. FML
Today, I came out to my parents as trans. They immediately took my remaining college savings, canceled my credit card, and began plotting to abduct me and "wean me off hormones, like a heroin addict." FML
Today, I came out to my therapist as gay. Claiming that my parents "can't be that homophobic", my therapist outed me to them. They kicked me out of the house. FML
Today, I finally told my parents I'm trans. My dad started crying and told me he loved me no matter what. My mother threw a chair at me, and told my dad it was his "wife-like" behaviour that made me this way. She then prayed out loud for an hour for God to send her a real husband and son. FML
Today, I finally came out to my dad, who is a priest, as gay. He responded by splashing me with holy water to "banish the demon within" me. FML
Today, I logged onto Facebook to see one of my "friends" had used my account to post a coming-out story. It had comments on it such as "I knew it!" "Finally." and "That explains so much." FML
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, I came out of the closet, after years of fear and shame, thanks to my mom making me to go to a church full of fundies my whole life. In the end, I was in tears. All I got was a frown and a "So? Want a medal or something?" FML
Today, I finally decided to tell my parents I was a lesbian. They spent the next few hours reading me the bible. FML
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WeirdUS 30
I've generally found while someone's family might be ok with someone else being gay, trans or bi it becomes a completely different thing if it is in their own family. Sorry to hear that OP, much support here.
Suaria 38
Yes some people don't mean to be mean about misgendering a person. However there are people who do not respect trans people. They will use the pronouns of what the person was assigned at birth, and not respect their pronouns. They will even call trans people "it" or "tranny." It really depends on the context and the person.
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azouwa 26
Listen, seriously, who cares what a bunch of people who haven't seen you in a few years think. It's your life. Live it how you want. You only get 1.
tonyfan00 38
I feel bad for you, but Facebook was not the most clever move...
saffy66 34
I’m still surprised how many people think Facebook is an appropriate medium to reveal deeply personal information . Maybe the family would have been more accepting if the news wasn’t made public to one and all at the same time.
Aishwarya Christopher 6
It takes a lot of courage to come out and good on you for doing so. I’m from a religious family too but wouldn’t ever react the way they did. There are millions out there who’d support you... sorry for how your family are reacting though. Must be horrible to go through something like that. Much love!!
Darkshadus1 2
If they did that then they aren't accepting people just fake christians
adventureinthesea 14
My grandma is religious and I got a bad reaction at first too (and from my father, who isn't even religious). Nearly 5 years later and I recently found out I'm actually intersex and I'll be on hormones soon. The only family member I had that was 100% supportive passed away 2 years ago in May. There will be hard times (some that seem unbearable) but ultimately it will get better. It's so much better than hiding who you really are. A great way to deal with it is finding other LGBTQIA+ friends. I hope it gets better.
Wintermelons 19
Pretend to go along with it, while they perform it, start like you’re writhing in pain, if they give you holy water, scream “IT BURNS” If they don’t, then start making grunting noises in pain. 10/10
fookmyleaf 13
there's only 2 genders
Suaria 38
And how pray tell does trans not fit into those two genders? Most trans people are within the binary of male or female. So by your logic, trans still fits within those two genders.
CoyoteOldOne 17
OP: I hope you are safe, and they aren't planning on dragging you off somewhere. Please be careful.
simcityguy09 19
That’s what ya get for not just dealing with the gender you are.
air5 12
Have you ever had a body that causes you extreme distress and dysphoria to the point of mental breakdowns? No? You do realize that most trans people commit suicide due to trying to force themselves to just deal with their assigned gender right? It’s not as simple as you think it is, and if you’ve never experienced anything similar then you have no room to say that.