By Anonymous - 05/10/2012 16:40 - United States - Cincinnati
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Um thick, thin, fat, or skinny calling someone a variation if one of those doesn't sound like sexual harassment to me? And the dress code is probably meant as to not further distract employees or customers, they probably want to look professional. So if she was doing this with the pants then I can understand his concern.
"Um thick, thin, fat, or skinny calling someone a variation if one of those doesn't sound like sexual harassment to me?" It depends on what his tone was...but it sort of sounds like he only wants skinny girls to wear skinny jeans in his workplace because they're more...er...visually appealing for him.
At first I immediately thought the boss was just being an asshole... However, I thought back to all the girls who try to wear tight clothing that is too small for their bodies. It doesn't look good. Part of being an employee for any business is to present yourself well. I will say, if he did have an issue purely for the sake of his business, he could've said it in a less abrasive manner.
Rule of thumb for any business looking to hire a manager : people who are assholes and think they have a right to say and do whatever they want because they believe that they run the entire show should absolutely without a doubt NOT be able to fit that position. Being able to communicate effectively in any type of professional setting is KEY and it was totally UNprofessional for him to have said what he did how he did it. OP, remember, if this crap continues, you always have the right to quit. Keep your head up and don't let all the haters get you down - especially everyone on here saying YDI because that's absolute crap!!
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Why should she deserve it just because she might be overweight? "Overweight" is a relative term (especially considering how and why BMI criteria has changed over the years). As far as I'm concerned, any YDI votes on this might as well be the same as voting YDI on a racist or sexist post.
63- But imagine the joy, though. If there were like 5,000 Your Life Sucks votes, and 0 for You deserved it. As if everyone was just so horrified by the FML that no one else had dared vote YDI. All that power at the tip of your fingers, knowing that there will be that little rush of satisfaction as the scales tip to 5000:1. The fact that OP does not deserve it would mean nothing- absolutely nothing in light of how much of a release that one little click would be. The terrible itch. One click, and it would go away. No matter how terrible the OP's woes, no matter how horrendous the problem, someone would have to click that button. There would be no choice. No alternative but to click that little icon and send the scales of fate tipping irrevocably out of balance. The triumph and celebration would be glorious, only to fade into a soul crushing shame. So much shame. This is why the internet can't have nice things.
59- yes you are right everyone has their flaws, some impossible to correct (although I believe that obesity is a serious problem that can and should be corrected, but that is beyond the point) but it is entirely your choice wether or not you will highlight your flaws. If I'm a crapy singer, it might not be a good idea to sign up for American idol, if I'm not good with numbers, maybe it would be a good idea to pick a major other than math. You get the idea. Some of these people don't look at themselves in the mirror before they leave the house. You realize you don't have to wear what everyone else is wearing, you are aloud to choose something flattering to your body!! 84- you should write a book.
99- it's not her fault. I don't care if its her fault she's fat or if its her fault that she wore something that was unflattering. It's her bosses fault for having a dress code that only applies to certain people. If skinny jeans don't look good on everyone, they shouldn't be on a work related dress code. It's also his fault for acting like an ass.
122- There's nothing that looks good on everybody. I don't look good in a size 3 or turtlenecks, but does that mean they should be out of a dresscode because I shouldn't wear them? Stop trying to act like "the sensitive one" and make OP except reality. Life taught her a lesson- don't wear clothes that don't fit.
Well, he had no right to say that to you, but sometimes people really don't know that certain things don't really fit them.
Are you kidding me? Freedom of speech doesn't mean you can go around insulting everyone - especially in a business type setting. Just because someone is in a management type of position doesn't mean they "have a right" to get all power trippy and cruel on someone. If I were the OP, I would go to her BOSSES BOSS and complain about what happened. This person needs to know saying shit like that is NOT ok and should be reprimanded for it - be it a write up or whatever. Keep your head up OP. Don't let some random asshole get you down. Report it, move on, and if he gets like that again , remember you always have the right to quit!
You ever seen that "Etchsanity" guy on FML? What an Internet tough guy, right? He should totally go back to 4chan and move out of his mum's basement. LOL!
Well if that's how he really feels then you should just go to the bathroom, take your pants off and get back to work.
They make them in all sizes for a reason, keep rocking your skinny jeans op..
85- I'm 5'7" and I weigh 135lbs. My stomach is almost flat, other than a bit extra, but I wear size 6-10. Pants sizes differ so much, just from company to company, that you really can't make those kind of generalizations about them. I'm a size 3 in some things, and sometimes a size 13. Women's pants are not usually labeled by inches, but by that company's idea of size. The same pair of pants at one place could be labeled a 5, but then be labeled 10 at another. Pants size can't really be used as a factor in telling physical health or appearance. People need to be putting more emphasis on having having a healthy body based on what their body needs, and how comfortable their body is, not trying to be that 'perfect' size 5.