By Anonymous - 12/08/2014 00:34 - United States - Columbus
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Tell her about the awesome girl you met (insert date you met here) and wait for her to realize you mean her
I don't think the girl needed telling... the behaviour of the opposite sex is not a mystery requiring intricate solving! If a guy has 'spent nights with you' along with said dates etc, does not blatantly exhibit behaviour that would make you think you are not exclusive... you have to be blind to take that as friendship only, unless mutually agreed otherwise. I take this as a very conscious decision on her part. Lastly if OP truly did not intend on being exclusive with her, this situation would not prompt him to post a FML about it.
She probably thought you were just being a good friend. You should have told her how you felt OP. I'm sorry you lost her though.
Sure, it's disappointing when you don't get the person you want. Maybe you should have been honest about your feelings/intentions sooner. But just because you spent your time and possibly money on her, doesn't guarantee that she'll want to end up with you/won't change her mind as she gets to know you/won't meet the guy of her dreams, who turns out not to be you. Just be glad you weren't in a relationship with her, married, with kids, suffering from recent trauma, when she did.
23: I agree with you that it does sound like she was leading him on if 'spent a few nights together' meant they've been sleeping with each other, but maybe she thought they were friends with benefits. One of my guy friends and a girl friend of his are friends with benefits (they also go out to dinner, drinks and movies with each other), but only until one of them meet someone else.