Today, after I skipped dessert for the third day in a row, my mom cornered me and accused me of being anorexic. I'm actually not far off being clinically obese and I'm just trying to diet, but nothing I say will convince her. She wants me to see a psychiatrist about a disorder I don't even have. FML
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Today, I told my mom that I think I’m anorexic and she told me she didn’t care. When I asked why, in disbelief she replied, "Honey, you are 5’3 and over 350 lbs, at this point you NEED to be anorexic." FML
Today, I'm staying with my mother for a week. Every time I eat something, she tells me that it's "swimsuit season" and that I need to eat less. Every time I say I'm not hungry, she panics and insists I have an eating disorder. I can't win. FML
Today, my mom accused me of having an eating disorder, and I didn't correct her. Truth is, I lost weight after I went off the pill a year ago. I'm too embarrassed to tell my mom that I haven't had anyone in a year. FML
Today, I admitted to my parents that I have an eating disorder. Instead of trying to help, my mom stared at me and said, "Duh". FML
Today, I felt sick to my stomach, so I told my mother I didn't want to eat dinner. She started accusing me of being anorexic, so I ate a little bit anyway to make her stop. I then threw up, only for her to take it as confirmation that I have an eating disorder. FML
Today, I told my mom that I'm bulimic and have been for a few years, and that I needed help. She responded by saying, "Well that's clearly not working for you. Why don't you try anorexia?" She then patted me on the head, smiled, and walked away. FML
Today, my morbidly obese mother gave me an angry lecture at dinner, saying without any trace of irony that my vegetarian diet is "unhealthy and utterly unacceptable". FML
Today, I finally broke down and told my mom that I'd relapsed with my eating disorder. She told me to quit whining and eat a burger, because she didn't want to pay for another therapy session. FML
Today, my mom asked me if I had an eating problem because I've been eating less. I only started eating less because she told me I ate too much. FML
Today, while at my mom’s house, my mom told me that I need to seriously curb my food intake. Then I went to my dad’s house and he told me I need to gain weight. I can’t win here. FML
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emeraldisle 30
Sounds like your mum needs to see a therapist as well.
nicole1765 14
Sounds like a more extreme version of my mom. When I was younger and tried to diet, my mom always thought i was starving myself.
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Comments (68)
ulissey_fml 22
Let her know dessert is absolutely unnecessary in a balanced diet and should be a once-in-a-while treat . Sugar "worshipping" is killing us all .
kingdomgirl94 29
I was surprised, do some people have dessert everyday?
militarybrat 21
Most people have it after lunch and dinner every day.
sunrise_citly 4
Dessert after both lunch and dinner? That's too much, unless you count plain fruit as a dessert. Two servings is what my nutritionist set as a maximum amount for the day.
rand0mhob0 4
What if you actually are anorexic, and because of that you see yourself as fat? (Joking)
suckceed 17
Take her up on her offer and talk to the psyche about your problems. Hopefully they will be able to talk sense into your mother. Also excercise is key to losing weight and portion control, best of luck with the weightloss.
ImGoth 15
Good luck on trying to lose weight I am too.
PhantomKitty 26
As someone who has been struggling with anorexia and disordered eating for years, I can confidently say that your mom is ******* ignorant. She really needs to learn just what an actual eating disorder is. On a brighter note, good on you for trying to lose weight the healthy way, and don't give up just because other people don't support you!
worthypegram1 13
Technically speaking, according to the DSM-5, you have to be significantly under weight to be diagnosed with anorexia, so you couldn't have it even if you were refusing to eat. But your mom sounds crazy and she should go see a therapist
MustangElly 6
And that's what ED-NOS is for. Seriously, though. I'm down to about 205 from about 220, and I wish people had any idea that I'm actually struggling to consume enough calories to keep it from being too drastic too fast. I'm not saying there is necessarily a disorder at play, but I think there could have been one if I hadn't been psychologically well-educated enough to recognize what was happening. It's really awful that obese people are ignored when things like this happen because they're losing weight, and because of that, nobody actually cares how or why it happens.
Sora_McKain 36
@47 I've gone from 240 to 190. I take belly dance and I am quite close to the teacher. When I made my decision to lose weight I kept her in the loop. Once I hit 200 she had nothing but complements for me (your doing well, it really shows, your clothes fit better, and the like). When I hit 190 all of a sudden her comments went to concern (your doing too much, do you even eat, your making your self sick, I worry about you, and the like). It's strange how perception can change like that, given I am not dieting I am lowering my portions and cutting out unnecessary sugars (soda, ice cream, cake, candy bars). I don't know why she feels like I'm endangering myself all of a sudden.
mergeterge 24
If she forces you, it might not be all bad... Therapists can pick up on things pretty easily and the conversation might switch to be in your favor. People look down on counseling but I think almost everyone can be helped by it!
doodlesdork 7
Well, if she wants to pay for the psychiatrist, hopefully if they're a good one they'll explain to your mom that you don't have an eating disorder. But good for you for caring about your health, obesity is a huge issue these days. Don't be too hard on your mom, try to be understanding, she may be wrong but at least she loves you and cares about your mental health. Lots of moms of actual anorexic kids ignore the problem or don't care. She's noticed your eating habits have changed and is concerned for you. Best of luck OP!
andrmac 25
I think your mom is part to blame for you being almost obese. You have only so much control over what your parents give you for food. Maybe see the school nurse and have her discuss weight issues and poor diet with you and your mother.
manuwish 9
you know you're not anorexic just because you skip desert unless you skip the meal before it too..your mom clearly doesn't know what that sickness is, you could try to show her by pretending to be concerned about her concern and having her help check online for best therapy methods for anorexia treatment, I think eating sweets is maybe even contraindicated for the beginning of the therapy because it makes you feel full a lot faster..not sure though..but have her check and especially read about the sickness and its indicators..don't worry op, stay strong and good luck with your weight loss ;)