By Anonymous - 11/03/2013 02:47 - United States - Louisville

Today, a man I once worked with passed away. He was a lovely, caring, and inspirational person whom I looked up to. My husband's form of consolation? "Old people die. Get over it." FML
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Yes, unfortunately the old die, I hope this great man was able to pass on his experience and intelligence before he passed. Just today I had a discussion about how society seems to be evolving slower socially, because the young refuse to learn from the old.

Yeah doesnt mean he has to be a jerk about it.

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He is right. They do.

Yeah doesnt mean he has to be a jerk about it.

@1: You didn't get the point, did you.

Damn! OP's husband is quite insensitive. He needs to learn on how to be supportive. Side note: I'm sorry, OP, for your loss.

,my dad does the same thing, even though he is old fashioned its not something a person wants to hear at that moment

"a man I once worked with" Yeah, OP is real heartbroken too. At least her husband was being realistic.

Old people tend to die

That doesn't give one the right to be insensitive

No shit... -_-

Tell him that when his mother dies.

No. Just no. You don't joke about that stuff...

No. You don't joke about that kind of stuff.

Mother vs. Work mates death... Bad comparison.

I apologize for double post. I take full responsibility for the thumbs down I am going to receive.

Eye for an eye and the world would go blind.

the same has been said for masturbation

No, the same can be said for facials. But then you're missing my point.

I don't understand the sadness over death... we ALL are gonna die...

Definitely a good point. Emotions are for the weak if they don't get you anywhere.

I try to view death in less of a negative way, but that doesnt mean that I dont get sad about it....have a heart man.

6, 22, when someone close to you passes away (parent, sibling, SO, etc), let us know how you react.

Im 32. Both my parents are dead, my ex wife had a stillborn son, my 23yo nephew od'ed... I think im qualified to feel how I feel and my belief is secure enough that one day ill see all of them in a better place than this, so no- im not sad they exited it.

26- *opens mouth and inserts foot* on a more serious note, my condolences to 28 and your family. I admire the view on death you've managed to achieve through your hardships,

Knowing that changes the way you come across. However, your reaction to death isn't the same as others. You may never understand it because of your experience with it, and it's not easily explained.

25- child molester: hey you're that guy on the shirt? Karl: yeah I am.

So? Just because we all die one day doesn't mean that we all die at the same time and that we don't miss those that die before us. My father died two years ago and I still miss him all the time. I understand that you believe that you will see the beloved ones you lost again some day, but that doesn't change the fact that they are gone now. Not missing them is a very unusual reaction on your part, not the other way around and I find it rather unkind of you that you would deliberately reinforce the OP's husband's opinion on the matter despite seeing that the OP very much doesn't feel that way. In a way you are devaluing the genuine emotions of all the people who have lost someone by holding up your own emotionless response as something better that other people should aspire to.

22...Emotions are what keep people healthy.

22 - I hope that's a 'Voldermort imitating' sarcastic comment. If not, I hope you learnt something from the above comments.

He never said he didn't miss the people in his life that died or that he doesn't think of them anymore, he just doesn't think of death as something to be sad about. A lot of spiritual people believe that death should be a time of celebration not mourning because they are in paradise now with no pain, no suffering, no longer living in this sinful world (which is thought of as the devil's kingdom) and their soul is no longer restricted by the flesh. People like this feel they have achieved such an understanding of death that they realize it is not at all a time to be sad, so don't jump all over this guy for being insensitive or cold hearted, that's not the case at all.

honestly, 6, i don't see how you got thumbed down so much, other than the comment itself seemed a bit cold. you are right. it was very sad when my grandpa passed away, and i miss him dearly, but his death released him from the pain of cancer, so i suppose it could have been seen as more of a blessing than anything else. my dad actually told us once that when he dies, he doesn't wan a funeral. he wants us to take some money out of his life insurance and throw a huge-ass hog roast. he said he'd rather have us laugh and smile and have a good time thinking about him than mourning and being depressed.

#28 I hate to break it to you, but you're not going to see them in a better place. You have deluded yourself in an attempt to control grief.

That's messed up -_- I hope he changes his ways and thoughts of the elders soon

Life is epic then you die.

Yes, unfortunately the old die, I hope this great man was able to pass on his experience and intelligence before he passed. Just today I had a discussion about how society seems to be evolving slower socially, because the young refuse to learn from the old.

I kinda want to comfort you that, people like me still like to learn from the old.

Maybe that's your husband's way of dealing with loss. Or he's a bit of an insensitive dick. He'll probably feel differently when it's someone close to him.

What an asshole... I doubt he would say something like that if someone he respected died...

Woah...maybe you should tell him to try to be a little bit more sensitive so he doesn't hurt your feelings again :/ I'm sorry OP

well that's a bit harsh