By Anonymous - 11/03/2013 02:47 - United States - Louisville
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So? Just because we all die one day doesn't mean that we all die at the same time and that we don't miss those that die before us. My father died two years ago and I still miss him all the time. I understand that you believe that you will see the beloved ones you lost again some day, but that doesn't change the fact that they are gone now. Not missing them is a very unusual reaction on your part, not the other way around and I find it rather unkind of you that you would deliberately reinforce the OP's husband's opinion on the matter despite seeing that the OP very much doesn't feel that way. In a way you are devaluing the genuine emotions of all the people who have lost someone by holding up your own emotionless response as something better that other people should aspire to.
He never said he didn't miss the people in his life that died or that he doesn't think of them anymore, he just doesn't think of death as something to be sad about. A lot of spiritual people believe that death should be a time of celebration not mourning because they are in paradise now with no pain, no suffering, no longer living in this sinful world (which is thought of as the devil's kingdom) and their soul is no longer restricted by the flesh. People like this feel they have achieved such an understanding of death that they realize it is not at all a time to be sad, so don't jump all over this guy for being insensitive or cold hearted, that's not the case at all.
honestly, 6, i don't see how you got thumbed down so much, other than the comment itself seemed a bit cold. you are right. it was very sad when my grandpa passed away, and i miss him dearly, but his death released him from the pain of cancer, so i suppose it could have been seen as more of a blessing than anything else. my dad actually told us once that when he dies, he doesn't wan a funeral. he wants us to take some money out of his life insurance and throw a huge-ass hog roast. he said he'd rather have us laugh and smile and have a good time thinking about him than mourning and being depressed.
Yes, unfortunately the old die, I hope this great man was able to pass on his experience and intelligence before he passed. Just today I had a discussion about how society seems to be evolving slower socially, because the young refuse to learn from the old.
Yeah doesnt mean he has to be a jerk about it.