By Anonymous - 23/12/2017 06:00
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Just because he is an idiot, doesn't mean you need to be mean to him. Thank him for that compliment, finish your meal, excuse yourself to the bathroom and exit via the rear of the building never to see him again.
So calling someone out on being mean and rude is somehow being mean now. That's a new kind of ridiculous, but expecting someone to thank someone else for insulting them is just plain insane. Apparently, we should just let people continue behaviors that are hurtful in order to avoid the risks of hurting their feelings.
This is a technique called negging (negative compliments). It is used when people, stereotypically males, want to sleep with females but feel the girl is out of their league and they don't have much of chance. The idea is to insult them but dress it up as a compliment and hopefully the victim of negging will have their self esteem lowered enough to think 'I'm not good enough for him but he likes me anyway' and therefore sleep with him. He may well not even think you are fat, but it is well known it is a topic girls are often touchy and sensitive about. A lot of girls think they are fat when they are not and a lot of girls prioritise being fat as their biggest flaw when being kind and happy is far more important. So it is an easy target as many girls he says that too will believe him. Other examples of negging include 'I don't normally go out with girls your size but you make it work'. Basically my analysis of the situation would be that he fancies you, thinks you won't go for him unless your self esteem is lowered so he uses a standard negging insult. And he is acting like a massive jerk by employing this technique and is very insecure. He thinks you are intimidating and out of his league.