Today, I confided to my grandma that I'm suffering from depression and I feel like a burden to everyone. She replied that her grandpa used to suffer from depression too, but that he'd cured himself in the end, namely by committing suicide. Thanks, grandma, thanks. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I just came out of a two-year long depression. I'm finally starting to feel normal, so of course I get a message that my grandmother might have less than a year to live. FML
Today, I was confiding in my grandma about how lonely I am and how everything in my life seems to be falling apart. While I was in mid-sentence, she rolled her eyes and made a show of removing her hearing aid. FML
Today, while crying at my grandma's funeral, I was told to "man up". FML
Today, I bitched out my grandmother, who lives with my family, for being lazy and laying in bed until 6-7pm for the past month. When I was done, she told me she had been diagnosed with cancer and was depressed because of it. Nobody had bothered to tell me. FML
Today, I just realized the last time I showered was while my grandma was still alive. My grandma died four months ago. Depression really does a number on you without you noticing. FML
Today, while grieving over the loss of my Grandpa, I called my girlfriend for comfort. After I had cheered up, she said, "Don't worry, he went to Hell anyway." FML
Today, my grandpa died. I called my grandma to make sure she was going to be fine. After talking over the phone for 30 minutes or so, I told her goodbye and said, out of habit, "Say hi to grandpa for me". FML
Today, at the end of my great grandmother's funeral, her daughter (my grandma) told me and my mother that she doesn’t have a reason to come back and visit anymore, and that everyone in her life is now gone. FML
Today, I've realized how badly my social anxiety disorder has affected my ability to bond with relatives. I sat in silent regret as I listened to cousins and aunts relate fond memories of our recently departed grandma during family dinner. It hurts to know I'll never have another chance with grandma. FML
Today, I learned from my dad that I'm astoundingly similar to my uncle, whom I never met. It was pretty cool to learn more about him, until my dad he told me that the reason he died so young is because he committed suicide. I've been suffering from severe depression since I was fourteen. Foreshadowing? I hope not. FML
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ItsMissLia 19
I'm sorry OP that was so insensitive of your grandmother to say. Keep your head up, it'll get better and know there's people out there to genuinely help you if you need someone to talk to.
WhoopteDo 26
Just because someone says something, doesn't mean you have to accept it. Always remember that you are important! You matter to someone, and if you smile once every day, things will get better.
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ItsMissLia 19
I'm sorry OP that was so insensitive of your grandmother to say. Keep your head up, it'll get better and know there's people out there to genuinely help you if you need someone to talk to.
AnonymousFunFMLs 18
I have gone through the same thing and I know how it feels when someone says suicide is the answer. But you are beautiful, strong, and if you think no one cares about you you're wrong. I care about you, and I'm sure other FML readers do top. It's a bad place but the most important thing to do is get help. I really hope you can get out of this dark place. I am sorry for your loss
AnonymousFunFMLs 18
*too
HotShot313 15
^ shit ******* say.
1two3four5six 23
^ shit insensitive douchebags say because they're too ******* stupid to understand mental illnesses
noobienick 19
That's not completely true. It doesn't always get better. It got better for me, but only because I got on meds for it. But if you don't get on meds or find some kind of solution, it usually just gets worse.
cocainewhore 30
Actually. That's not true. Meds don't 'make you better' they're a temporary relief thing.
DarkSmoke591 21
Sorry for your Granpa. Stay positive, it always gets better
Onyxdragon 9
it wasn't his grandpa, it was his great great grandpa
ryanthecheeseguy 18
*great great grandpa
DarkSmoke591 21
Thanks for correcting me, have a nice day :)
kingodsucksville 18
Her*
WhoopteDo 26
Just because someone says something, doesn't mean you have to accept it. Always remember that you are important! You matter to someone, and if you smile once every day, things will get better.
FuckYouScience12 8
Stay strong, OP!
amberr_harperr 15
smile. it makes the world a better place. you'll get over what she said. hopefully
dragonkisses28 25
#5, I know you're trying to be kind. As someone who suffers from clinical depression, I'd like to tell you that we absolutely get tired of people telling us to smile. Its really not a high priority for someone who wakes up every day and only sees the shadows. That said, it is hard to get better without some kind of support from family or close friends. While they may not completely understand what you are going through, they will listen when you need them. Sorry, OP, maybe your grandma has the wrong notion of what depression is. Many people refuse to acknowledge depression as having a severe impact on a person because they either don't understand it or they associate the word "depression" with a negative image. People are uncomfortable discussing mental illness. I don't think your grandma was telling you to kill yourself, but we only know the story you tell us. Maybe she never truly understood the scope of her grandfather's depression. We also need to remember that until recently, seeking psychiatric help caused a person to be labeled as crazy which caused many people to suffer quietly on their own. Find yourself someone you can talk to, OP, and don't be afraid to seek treatment if you need it.
skittyskatbrat 19
Do you tell Anorexics to just eat?
Ajek2760 4
Older people tend to say insensitive things more. I wonder why.
baseballbv 17
As you get older you definitely learn to stop caring about what others think.
junkman6 22
Because they were raised in a world that wasn't so damn sensitive. Being blunt and to the point was preferred to being overly sensitive and never making a point.
MrConcise 35
It's a crude and medieval cure, but she's a little right. You aren't a burden, OP.
Silly_Lilly6969 23
Don't listen to her OP. Adults now-a-days just don't understand that some people could be depressed. It's like they don't get it. Please stay strong.
Welshite 40
Well that's an ignorant statement. Since when do adults not understand depression?
Silly_Lilly6969 23
Well coming from my experiences they haven't cared. So I do apologize if that offended anybody.
junkman6 22
Because they're evil adults who just don't understand what kids are going through! I mean it's not like they were ever kids...
Silly_Lilly6969 23
Exactly !! ^
ryryblue92 6
Wow, I love how she doesn't even understand that the person above her was being sarcastic. My mind is blown. "Exactly! OMG yeah of course adults were never kids!"
ryryblue92 6
I was going to be meaner, but I already felt so embarrassed for her that she describes herself as "just a punk teenager" in her profile.
skittyskatbrat 19
Well, it does run in the family, just like diabetes and high blood pressure. And if she says something like that again, I'd say you are totally good with asking her where she'll be buried, which funeral home she wants, if she worries about being buried alive, and if she would be able to plan this so that it falls during vacation time so you don't miss work. Be just as thoughtless.... Although I do hope she was accidentally unsupportive and apologizes. Depression bites!
Vanshikap 24
Stay strong OP. Sorry about your grandma. Just know that there are people out there who are willing to listen if you really need to talk.