By Anonymous - 19/09/2016 10:05
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Hey, now... desiring certainty has little to do with self loathing, it sounds like you wanted some security. That's pretty human, don't beat yourself up over it. I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend though, FYL
Yeah. There's so much stigma around being "clingy" or "needy" when it's pretty natural especially at times of uncertainty. Of course there is a limit and each person needs/wants a different level I think that's an important thing to be compatible on. Idk. Sorry things went badly OP.
To be perfectly honest what you did may turn out to be a favor to both you and her to avoid future heartbreak. I sympathize, but maybe this will turn out well. Dont get too down about it and try to stay on the bright side
I know that I personally can't stand periods of uncertainty. I'd honestly have my girlfriend break up with me rather than have the two of us in a state of limbo.
This is an honest question; it's not meant to piss anyone off. Am I the only one that doesn't believe in the concept of being on a break in a relationship? Either you're together or you're not. Being "on a break", to me anyway, has always really meant "we're broken up, but don't want to say so". Just my thoughts, though, and I'd love to hear everyone else's. :)
It hasn't happened to me and I'm very happy with my own relationship, but to me it seems pretty reasonable for a person, especially if their life is quite busy and they've gotten into too much of a routine with their partner, to want to take a step back and analyze the situation. Entering and maintaining a committed relationship with someone is very serious, it affects our whole life ! It could be helpful to be away from someone to realize how much (or little) you care about that person, and reflect on where you'd like your relationship to go !