Are you kidding? Have you considered possibly that your kid is more important than getting your rocks off? If still breast feeding sex drive will be minimal anyway and why the ever living biscuit would you want to have sex with someone who didn't actively want to have sex with you?

My wife and I have three kids, my two year old sleeps in our bed (due to overcrowding) we haven't had any type of intamacy since lockdown so I'd say had a moment in the shower or wherever but she's not going to want sex if she's brest feeding because her body is kicking out tons of hormones at the moment that stifle this need as the baby (toddler) is her main focus. Things will get better but don't push it.

This sounds sad. Kids are important, sure, but intimacy is vital to a marriage.

So have sex somewhere else.

All the men commenting that if she’s still breastfeeding her sex drive won’t be there. Hi, I’m still breastfeeding my almost 2 year old and my sex drive is insane.

If she is using your son then it sucks of course, but what have *you* done to get your toddler to sleep in his own bed? It hardly ever happens overnight and usually requires lots of work.