By Anonymous - 25/5/2021 00:01

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Today, I took a girl out on a date. We had dinner, we had good conversation, the vibe was excellent, and everything was great. I took her to a bar I frequent after for a couple of drinks to finish the night. She left with some other dude on his motorcycle. FML
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By  Blimix  |  6

It's entirely possible that she did *not* think that everything was going great, and that leaving with another guy was her safest option for getting away from you. There are all kinds of situations that can creep a girl out while the guy thinks everything is fine.

Did you say or do anything that could have made her feel unsafe? Did she try to establish boundaries that you didn't immediately respect? Did you try to pressure her into anything, even something innocuous, that she wasn't comfortable with?

It could have been none of these things. But even just saying "No, I'd rather not see you again" can make some men abusive and dangerous, and women have no way of knowing whether you are one of those men. So, some of them will play it safe, acting like things are fine until they can figure out how to get away. This wouldn't be your fault at all, but neither can one fault her for protecting herself.

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  bleachedraven  |  14

definitely seems like it was planned.

By  bleachedraven  |  14

That bitch probably loved every minute of it & then coped out. I'm sorry dude, people are shit. Props for showing her a good time, she'll get her karma back eventually.

By  Blimix  |  6

It's entirely possible that she did *not* think that everything was going great, and that leaving with another guy was her safest option for getting away from you. There are all kinds of situations that can creep a girl out while the guy thinks everything is fine.

Did you say or do anything that could have made her feel unsafe? Did she try to establish boundaries that you didn't immediately respect? Did you try to pressure her into anything, even something innocuous, that she wasn't comfortable with?

It could have been none of these things. But even just saying "No, I'd rather not see you again" can make some men abusive and dangerous, and women have no way of knowing whether you are one of those men. So, some of them will play it safe, acting like things are fine until they can figure out how to get away. This wouldn't be your fault at all, but neither can one fault her for protecting herself.

By  Chazzster  |  21

A meal and a drink or two do not buy you love. In a date, at any time, either party has the right to call it quits. It seems pretty shitty, though to leave the bar with some other guy. It will make an interesting story later, but now of course it’s not very enjoyable…

Move on, it didn’t work out. Part of the dating process is to eventually find a compatible person - That usually means several (or more) unsuccessful dates before finding a compatible person. Think of it as one more match that won’t work has been eliminated.

Especially if you have a limited income, start with less expensive options until it looks like it might work out - Like a coffee or lunch as a first date. Go easy with alcohol on a date, While alcohol can sometimes act as a way of loosening inhibitions in a desirable way, it can also bring out undesired characteristics in either your date or you.

Oh and by the way - No talk about politics or religion on a first date. A couple will eventually have to face those topics, but there is no reason to do so on a first date.