By Anonymous - 12/01/2013 15:28 - Australia - Chatswood
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I agree. Too many people give up at the first sign of trouble. That's why the divorce rate is so high.
i honestly think that people shouldn't get divorced just because of who they made the vow under, but because love is not an easy thing and needs work and to be happy you need to be able to compromise and learn to give and take fairly. it is a commitment to another person and that is what matters about it. i just feel this site is too diverse to try and bring religion into the discussion. no offence.
The REAL misconception about marriage is that it is any different from not being married. Marriage in itself is complete bullshit, it means nothing really, it only exists because of tradition. What's the difference if you're married or not a long as the couple together is in love? Nothing, besides all of the things to do with laws. Nothing in your relationship should change because you add a "title" to it.
It's a much bigger commitment. It creates a family, and shouldn't be dropped as easily as other relationships. Love is chemicals in the brain. It can come and go. A relationship isn't always two people madly in love at all times. It's two people who share their ups and downs, and who vowed to get through it together.
and its so stupid isnt it? its been proven over and over again that the feeling of being in love fades and that we get acostumed to things and start to think they are boring for it. yet so many people still assume they would be "in love" for ever once they find their true soulmate :s
Hopefully agreeing on that now will mean you disagree on a divorce later.
Aww OP im sure you can both work it out, dont you love each other?
Sounds like things are pretty bad, but all you can do is try your best. Best of luck repairing your marriage!