By Remy - 16/11/2013 23:39 - United States - Portland
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sit down with your parents and tell them why its important for you to either get a job, or have them pay for your college. its your education, and it is truly important
if you really look at it, OP's parents have no say in this. They aren't paying his college fees? Fine, but they aren't letting him get a job? seems a lot like they're indirectly trying to fuck up his future with debt and loans and OP should accept the job regardless of what his parents say. Plus it counts for experience.
The point, 94, is that OP's parents are screwing OP's chance at a good education by a) not assissting with college (which they don't HAVE to, but it's more or less a social thing that the parents help a little) and more importantly b) preventing OP from obtaining the funds to pay for college. No one's saying they HAVE to pay for anything (though most parents I know help in some form or fashion), but their reason for preventing OP from being able to save up is crap.
Right to education? Op's got an education. More than a decade of it. Fewer than one in 5 jobs requires a degree, but a third of kids go to college/uni. Chances are op will be wasting money and years of their life on additional education they will never use to better their circumstances in life. Why would another 4 plus years of education be a right? Unless children are growing up too slowly and need to be sheltered from the harsh truth we call reality until they're well into their 20s.
76-I'm in college and while I do see a few people there just because they don't know what else to do, most students have an idea of what jobs they want; jobs you need more than high school education for (engineers, vets, hygienists, teachers, tourism, computer tech, biologists, make-up artists, etc). Sure there are a lot of jobs which don't require higher education (and someone's gotta do them) but if op knows what he wants from college, then he has a right to go.
Why would any parent STOP their kids from getting jobs? They should be proud of you for thinking ahead and wanting to be responsible. Especially when most kids just want to party and spend their parents money.
I agree with above, but more importantly... How exactly do they plan to stop you, OP? Kick you out? Sounds to me like they're not gonna do that. Punish you? How exactly? They can't really do anything to stop you. Go out there and do what you decide, not what others decide.
Maybe they are jealous or afraid of the idea of OP going to college. For example, maybe they are afraid of losing ties with you if you get white-collar work after college instead of a blue-collar career like them. Or perhaps they're afraid of letting you move away for college and think that by keeping your savings low they'll keep you close to home as a commuter student. Time for a heart to heart. Be compassionate but firm.
if you're going to become an independent college student, you're probably old enough to decide on your own what jobs to have.
They wouldn't let you have a job? My parents wouldn't let me do anything till I got a job.