Living a lie

By Anonymous - 18/08/2020 14:01

Today, I get a scornful look when I try to talk to my husband, let alone try to cheer him up, because he is "severely depressed." Well, unless a friend or neighbor knocks on the door, then he’s the life of the party. Right until they leave. FML
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26octhumbug 13

Unfortunately that is often a symptom of depression, people may feel the need to hide their feelings by being the opposite when around others. Remember robin williams, he always appeared to be the life and soul of the party from the outside. Be there for him, it’s good that he allows you to see beneath the surface.

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xxlk4xx 6

I would say hes definitely more comfortable with you seeing that side of him, I was the same way even when i was suicidal, i would act silly and joke around a lot around my friends and family but once they all left i felt i didnt have to have that front up anymore, it was exhausting trying to seem normal and happy when i wasn't, maybe it's the case with him as well! i know it isn't easy

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26octhumbug 13

Unfortunately that is often a symptom of depression, people may feel the need to hide their feelings by being the opposite when around others. Remember robin williams, he always appeared to be the life and soul of the party from the outside. Be there for him, it’s good that he allows you to see beneath the surface.

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xxlk4xx 6

I would say hes definitely more comfortable with you seeing that side of him, I was the same way even when i was suicidal, i would act silly and joke around a lot around my friends and family but once they all left i felt i didnt have to have that front up anymore, it was exhausting trying to seem normal and happy when i wasn't, maybe it's the case with him as well! i know it isn't easy

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RichardPencil 30

Maybe you can go cheer up some other guy?

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Thaylok 17

Please have him seek help. Depression is scary and not a laughing matter. His ire and scornful looks will be worth it after he has professional help. He is hiding his depression from friends. help him see it and seek help.

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Tanisha Skye Regeling 15

been there. my husband is exactly the same. just remember it will end. my husband's last depression episode lasted 6 weeks. 4 of them he barely spoke to me and everything I did was wrong. we're in a much better place now But it seriously sucks. especially if they won't get any help for it. here's hoping he snaps out of it soon and life gets better for you

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AmbrosiaFan 18

He's lying to THEM, not you. Depressed people hide it. They show their true self to you.

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Willibobs 33

Depressed? Or just abusive.

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KIEdekka 14

as someone who has suffered through depression, putting on a facade and acting like life is great is exhausting, and I only do it around people I don't know or who don't know me very well, so they don't get nosy and unintentionally make it worse. He may just feel more comfortable around you, and lets himself crash a bit around you. That or he's just an ass

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Elizabeth Voegel 3

If it makes you feel better, im kinda that way too. I do a lot of pretending around friends and coworkers but I genuinely don't have the energy to pretend with my fiance. I dont know your situation entirely, but please try not to take it personally. Depression is absolute hell and the knowledge that we're hurting our loved ones oftentimes makes it get worse.

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