Today, my wife told me to stop talking about my depression, in case the neighbours hear and think she’s a bad wife for not being able to keep me happy. FML
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Packed lecture halls, a sketchy roommate and frat parties: welcome to college, the real thing.
Today, in the middle of one of the worst migraines of the year, I asked my wife if she could kindly stop trying to tell me about the latest neighbourhood gossip at 130 decibels. Cue her loudly nagging in my ear about how I’m mean for not wanting to spend time with her anymore. FML
Today, I tried to speak to my wife about my feelings for this coming year, family and work. I thought it wouldn't be a problem as I regularly listen and support her with her feelings, emotional issues, anxiety, depression, etc. She shut me down in 30 seconds and said to stop acting like my mother and being so stupid. FML
Today, my husband explained that talking to me makes him miserable. FML
Today, I was hanging out with my best friend. Depressed, I started telling her about my terrible week. A woman came over and asked me to not be so "whiny and negative" in front of her children. FML
Today, I get a scornful look when I try to talk to my husband, let alone try to cheer him up, because he is "severely depressed." Well, unless a friend or neighbor knocks on the door, then he’s the life of the party. Right until they leave. FML
Today, my wife caught me crying over her miscarriage and she started yelling and screaming at me to "man up" because she should be the sad one, not me. FML
Today, my family finally noticed my depression because of how quiet, down and uninterested I’ve been. They responded by harassing me for saying nothing, calling me names, and making fun of me. Hmm, I wonder why I’m depressed. FML
Today, my dad straight up told me I’m not allowed to be depressed because it reflects badly on him as a single parent. This was followed by a threat to confiscate my car keys if I told anyone I’m depressed, even my friends and girlfriend. FML
Today, my parents screamed at me for being diagnosed as depressed, because I’m not allowed to be depressed, because me being depressed makes them look like bad parents who couldn’t raise a happy, normal child, so I have to be happy or I’ll be punished. FML
Today, my wife and I received confirmation that she has postpartum depression. When sharing this with the family, my mother exclaimed "I told you she was a psycho!" Now my wife is crying louder and more often than our newborn. Thanks, mom. FML
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Top comments
RichardPencil 32
It's depressing that you have such an egocentric wife. I may have just cured you.
TwoBytesCarley 27
The wife isn’t having a hard time with OP’s depression. The wife is so vain that her only concern is in what the neighbours might think of HER, in other words, she thinks his depression is making her look bad.
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Comments (4)
RichardPencil 32
It's depressing that you have such an egocentric wife. I may have just cured you.
jobekka 20
cut your wife some slack, it can be hard to be a close to someone with depression. i know it's really hard for you too, but just know it's also hard for her.
TwoBytesCarley 27
The wife isn’t having a hard time with OP’s depression. The wife is so vain that her only concern is in what the neighbours might think of HER, in other words, she thinks his depression is making her look bad.
Doom_Kitty 14
Uhm...but you both know that it actually isn't her job to keep you happy? It's yours. And yes, depressions are hard to handle but it's doable with a lot of work from both of you. Good luck!
Bonniibiik 6
Sadly some people will blame her. This probably means you need to reassure your wife that it isn’t her. She’s speaking from an insecurity she has. Listening isn’t always doing what she says.