Leaving makes sense

By Anonymous - 01/05/2021 21:30

Today, I finally left my bitch girlfriend with her son, who has difficulties and violence issues. Now everyone is telling me I should go back, because the kid needs a father, never mind that I’m depressed and in therapy for suicidal urges. Guess my mental health doesn’t matter. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 608
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Find a safe space and tune out those toxic asses. I'm assuming you're not the father to her son so you don't have to worry about nothing.

If you do not take care of your own mental health and wellness, then you cannot take care of anyone else. In a survival situation you have to focus on what it takes to ensure your own survival. Sometimes some of the people around us are so toxic that they can destroy your mental health and lead to severe depression. When it gets to that point you have to do what is necessary to ensure your own survival - Especially if it’s not your own son. It is the mark of a caring person to want to help others - Even when they behave in ways that are not very lovable. But we all have our limits and if the situation is spiraling you into severe depression then you have to do something else. OP, believe me others (myself included) have been in somewhat comparable situations. It’s not an easy situation to navigate. If at all possible, get psychological care for the depression. Counseling takes time to help, but it can work wonders in the end. Antidepressants can help short term, but counseling is ultimately more helpful and has far fewer side effects.

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Find a safe space and tune out those toxic asses. I'm assuming you're not the father to her son so you don't have to worry about nothing.

If you do not take care of your own mental health and wellness, then you cannot take care of anyone else. In a survival situation you have to focus on what it takes to ensure your own survival. Sometimes some of the people around us are so toxic that they can destroy your mental health and lead to severe depression. When it gets to that point you have to do what is necessary to ensure your own survival - Especially if it’s not your own son. It is the mark of a caring person to want to help others - Even when they behave in ways that are not very lovable. But we all have our limits and if the situation is spiraling you into severe depression then you have to do something else. OP, believe me others (myself included) have been in somewhat comparable situations. It’s not an easy situation to navigate. If at all possible, get psychological care for the depression. Counseling takes time to help, but it can work wonders in the end. Antidepressants can help short term, but counseling is ultimately more helpful and has far fewer side effects.

Studies show that staying together for the kids produces a worse environment for raising children than breaking it off.

Frankly I would call CPS if she's a bitch to you I can only imagine how she treats her kid. That being said walk away before the kid hurts you or you hurt the kid.

DO NOT go back, no matter what! NO MATTER WHAT!

As the kids say, "everybody gangster til it happens to them." All those people who told you to stay wouldnt think twice about leaving if it happened to them. Dont feel bad, OP. You did the right thing by doing right by you.

Run as far and as fast as you can. Don't get sucked into co-dependency.

Definitely don't go back! it clearly wasn't working and you shouldn't sacrifice your mental health just because people think you should stay. they I'm sure weren't the ones having to live with them, so really their opinions don't mean anything.

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

It's not your son I suppose. You are not obliged to take care of another man's kid. Take care of yourself.