I agree but you shouldn't compare life to chess lol. plus the queen is replaceable and you can have more than one queen at a time.

lol I'd throw the whole thing opened at his head. So thankful my husband knows our places in our marriage!

or... make a list of "men's work" I doubt op's husband knows exactly what that entails. mowed lawn, landscaping, chopping a giant pile of wood for the coming winter. growing enough crops to fill the freezer. if he can't do ALL the men's work on top of a job then he can shut the **** up about it. also... it would be funny seeing the reaction to a long list of near impossible or pointless chores to do and should remind him it's 2020

This is how I usually dealt with the dumb "make me a sammich, woman" type jokes. OP, don't forget to ask: Where's the meat from the deer you hunted, skinned, gutted and butchered? Where's the wheat you plowed, planted, fertilized, harvested and threshed? Have you finished training and signing up for the local militia yet? When have you scheduled that duel to defend my honor? Why haven't you finished building an extra room on our house? Forget it- why haven't you built us a house? Throw in fixing the car and doing all the car maintenance himself, earning 100% of the household income including enough to pay for domestic staff, and any other contradictory bullshit "traditional" men's work. Then throw a pie in his face.

That’s obviously the way your relationship is, that’s very much the way I’ve been in my relationship, and that’s great because it works for you both... OP on the other hand, had their relationship that had been working for them when suddenly along comes a game changer for her with no prior discussion about things and now she is expected to suddenly play ball... I don’t think so.