Quick reflexes

By fml9124 - 20/03/2020 18:00

Today, my girlfriend's 8-year-old daughter decided that I'm going to marry her mom and send her to an orphanage. I blurted out, "Marriage?! No one's talking about marriage!" Now my girlfriend is mad at me, and her daughter is still scared of me. FML
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Same thing different taste

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WistayShlaio82 13

You forgot to mentioned the part where she isn’t going to orphanage

xXPikachuXx 21

You assume he means ever. He likely meant as of that moment in time. Most people don't talk about it until they're ready. Who starts a relationship saying you're gonna marry someone before you get to know them?

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YDI lol Y’all should’ve had that conversation before y’all decided to start dating “and see what happened” 🧐 It’s called intentional dating... anything outside of that is setting yourself up for these kinds of problems 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ Figure it out 💁🏾‍♂️

xXPikachuXx 21

You assume he means ever. He likely meant as of that moment in time. Most people don't talk about it until they're ready. Who starts a relationship saying you're gonna marry someone before you get to know them?

lifeis4me 20

Good luck with being on the first date and bringing up marriage

lifeis4me 20

Good luck with being on the first date and bringing up marriage

WistayShlaio82 13

You forgot to mentioned the part where she isn’t going to orphanage

westoz 24

I don’t think what you blurted out was wrong. You’re not thinking of marriage just yet, that’s you’re right. The child isn’t yours and it’s her mums job to make her daughter feel and know she won’t be pushed to the side for anyone. Stand your ground mate 👍

well if he's taking the relationship with this woman seriously he should be thinking about making the daughter comfortable even if he's not marrying the woman yet. the fact that she's scared of him is 100% an issue and instead of just blurting things out maybe he should have thought about what he was going to say and assure her that 1 she's not going to an orphanage, and 2 there's no plans of marriage. a childs mental distress should be more important than their opinion on marriage....

Ok, clearly the child is anxious about her mom's relationship. It's Girlfriend's responsibility to talk with her and hear her concerns, and assure her that things will be ok. It's good that she has an instinct to not trust you yet, it isn't just a trope, the vast majority of domestic abuse towards children comes from step-parents.