By Anonymous - 25/8/2021 20:01

For better and for worse

Today, my husband decided he was finally going to quit his job. We literally bought a house last week. His job is/was easy, with pay way above his qualifications. After we'd talked about it FOR THE 50TH TIME, he did the opposite and texted the dept. head that he hates the company and wants to be part time at most. FML
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By  Chazzster  |  22

Are you sure he quit? Maybe he was fired?

At best he’s either deeply unhappy with his job or deeply irresponsible.

It’s OK to quit a job once you have another one lined up. But to quit before that is just stupid and irresponsible.

There is one other possibility and it’s even uglier - In the event of a divorce, many states assign child support and spousal support based on each spouse’s income. If he has little income he gets to pay less. And then later, of course after the divorce and bankruptcy and a new job, he gets to keep most of his money. I heard this from a divorce lawyer. But at least in CA they take into consideration income history, not just present income.

I am very sorry, no matter what the real reasons:
(1) You are due for an honest talk with your spouse - And you need to listen very carefully. Don’t lecture, ask questions.
(2) You better find a job if you don’t already have one. You are going to need one and now people are hiring.

By  legalgravethief  |  4

Being in a job that you hate or treats you bad will send you over the edge, sounds like he’s realised this and wants out, however yes… leaving before finding another job is a bit on the dumb side

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By  Chazzster  |  22

Are you sure he quit? Maybe he was fired?

At best he’s either deeply unhappy with his job or deeply irresponsible.

It’s OK to quit a job once you have another one lined up. But to quit before that is just stupid and irresponsible.

There is one other possibility and it’s even uglier - In the event of a divorce, many states assign child support and spousal support based on each spouse’s income. If he has little income he gets to pay less. And then later, of course after the divorce and bankruptcy and a new job, he gets to keep most of his money. I heard this from a divorce lawyer. But at least in CA they take into consideration income history, not just present income.

I am very sorry, no matter what the real reasons:
(1) You are due for an honest talk with your spouse - And you need to listen very carefully. Don’t lecture, ask questions.
(2) You better find a job if you don’t already have one. You are going to need one and now people are hiring.

By  legalgravethief  |  4

Being in a job that you hate or treats you bad will send you over the edge, sounds like he’s realised this and wants out, however yes… leaving before finding another job is a bit on the dumb side

By  xxcutekatxx2  |  12

If he is truly hating his job which it sounds like he is then I can understand. A lot of people don't realize how much a job can affect the rest of your life. My job wasn't hard but it was terrible.
When you fantasise about being in a car crash so you don't have to go into work or so that it kills you so you'll never have to deal with it again.. your mental health is more important. Handing in my resignation was like a massive weight taken off my shoulders and I felt happy again.

I'm sorry that it puts you in a tough spot financially but ask him if he is okay and how he is feeling. Things have a way of working themselves out, hopefully he finds a job that pays the bills and he is happy in.