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By  TCRII  |  28

When I finally left my cheating ex, my first night alone, I slept better than I had in years. I never regretted the breakup. Try to look at your situation as if you were advising a friend - it can be easier to see the best course when we are on the outside looking in.

By  Iamthebanzai22  |  18

Look, I don't want to be funny but these virtual relationships are bullshit. So, I presume you have never actually met the guy? The problem with online chemistry is that it is all in your head. Basically you take what you know about the guy and you build the perfect boyfriend around that IN YOUR MIND. That is the only place where that person exists. You have never smelt his weird body odour or gotten frustrated because he doesn't clean up after himself. It also means that no real life guy ever has a chance because to you they can never be that perfect. Also, how will you ever compete with a real woman who can offer him physical sex? I am sorry about the reality check but investing heavily in a virtual relationship is setting you up for hurt one way or another. Even if you eventually meet in real life and find that he is nothing like the guy in your head.

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By  TCRII  |  28

When I finally left my cheating ex, my first night alone, I slept better than I had in years. I never regretted the breakup. Try to look at your situation as if you were advising a friend - it can be easier to see the best course when we are on the outside looking in.

By  Brightside86  |  21

Maybe talk to him and make a decision, being in a state of relationship limbo is the worst.

Also are you sure, he's cheating? I had a girlfriend who thought I was cheating because I stopped texting during working hours, after she told me that she was no longer allowed to be texting at work, and she could lose her job.

By  Iamthebanzai22  |  18

Look, I don't want to be funny but these virtual relationships are bullshit. So, I presume you have never actually met the guy? The problem with online chemistry is that it is all in your head. Basically you take what you know about the guy and you build the perfect boyfriend around that IN YOUR MIND. That is the only place where that person exists. You have never smelt his weird body odour or gotten frustrated because he doesn't clean up after himself. It also means that no real life guy ever has a chance because to you they can never be that perfect. Also, how will you ever compete with a real woman who can offer him physical sex? I am sorry about the reality check but investing heavily in a virtual relationship is setting you up for hurt one way or another. Even if you eventually meet in real life and find that he is nothing like the guy in your head.

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  kfchicken_fml  |  27

you have to be careful with online relationships but they're not impossible like you're making them seem. long distance relationships are hard but not impossible, my parents were long distance and have now been married for over a decade

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  Iamthebanzai22  |  18

Hi. I am not talking about a long distance relationship where people have actually met and only see each other occasionally. I am taking about a virtual relationship where they have never physically met. Personally, I have been in both. Look, even virtual relationships can work. My sister met her husband online and they are really happy. However, once they hit it off online they made a point of physically meeting as fast as they could to see if the chemistry is real. Sorry OP, a year and he has never made a plan to come see you? After telling you every day how much he wants you? That's a red flag right there. If you really want to meet someone, join a match agency. I did it and met a really nice girl who I actually ended up having a relationship with. It's actually not even expensive and it takes that 'I am desperate' monkey off your back. Usually that is when you just start meeting lots of great people by yourself.

By  Iamthebanzai22  |  18

Having said that, there are ways to meet real people. For one thing, get out a little. Join conservation groups and dance classes. Do stuff where you can actually meet people. Good luck!!