Drives

By Anonymous - 09/10/2019 16:00

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Today, and for months now, the meds that stop me from killing myself have killed my sex drive. My boyfriend, being stressed at work, initially assured me that his was also non existent and not to worry. I found out he's been wanking every day and hiding it from me so I don't feel bad. Now I know, I feel fucking awful. FML
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don't feel awful, this is just one of those things...my doctor said the one pill I'm on, (sertraline if you're wondering, I probably spelled it wrong though) has success with sex drive if you give it time, ive been taking them for a few months now and definitely notice that I'm able to get horny more often than when I first started. TMI I know but I really hope this helps. also, your boyfriend is sweet because I know plenty of guys who wouldn't be able to keep their mouths shut and would be upset with you for not putting out. I think he genuinely understands and didn't want to add more pressure on you so he told a little white lie. just hang in there, shit will get better over time

At least he's wanking by himself, right? He's not getting any help, is he?

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To the person who clicked “you deserved it”, wtf? How?

Sady_Ct 37

So, even tho your sex drive is dead, you could try and entertain your partner. As long as you consent to this, you should be okay and you may find you get totally into it your self. I have been there with meds before so I know it’s hard. Either way you guys have to have an honest talk.

I completely understand. Two words: Blow Job. Even if you don’t want sex you can please your partner at least. But if it’s one of those things where even that isn’t appealing then talk to you doctor about your medication.

Why is this downvoted?

don't feel awful, this is just one of those things...my doctor said the one pill I'm on, (sertraline if you're wondering, I probably spelled it wrong though) has success with sex drive if you give it time, ive been taking them for a few months now and definitely notice that I'm able to get horny more often than when I first started. TMI I know but I really hope this helps. also, your boyfriend is sweet because I know plenty of guys who wouldn't be able to keep their mouths shut and would be upset with you for not putting out. I think he genuinely understands and didn't want to add more pressure on you so he told a little white lie. just hang in there, shit will get better over time

why would keeping your mouth shut be a good thing? commination is key in a healthy relationship it's not good to keep things bottled up

yeah but it's not like it's her fault she's not in the mood, obviously she's mentioned her lack of sex drive to her partner so I'm assuming not to make her feel bad he said he doesn't have a drive either while yeah maybe he shouldn't have lied about that I feel like it was harmless and he was just trying not to make her feel obligated to fuck him when she really wasnt up for it

yeah but it's not like it's her fault she's not in the mood, obviously she's mentioned her lack of sex drive to her partner so I'm assuming not to make her feel bad he said he doesn't have a drive either while yeah maybe he shouldn't have lied about that I feel like it was harmless and he was just trying not to make her feel obligated to screw him when she really wasnt up for it

@kfchicken_fml You are taking this out of context. One thing is discussing the issue with your partner, the other is complaining about your partner "not putting out".

At least he's wanking by himself, right? He's not getting any help, is he?

plenty of good advice posted here but...you've..assumed he hadn't been before....

im sorry my doode

Get over it. Guys wank all the time, even if sex is regular.

At least he's wanking and being supportive of your needs (or lack of) rather than pressuring you or going off and shagging around. Plenty of people here have suggested hand jobs etc. as a way around this and it could be a legit answer. Just because you're not in the mood for sex doesn't mean that bringing him pleasure won't make you feel good, hell it might even turn you on!

At least he isn’t cheating 🤷🏻‍♀️