By WhatALetdown - 25/11/2015 00:26 - United States - Danbury
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Instead of making him feel bad about himself, why don't you practice and make him better? We aren't born knowing how to please our significant other. Give him constructive criticism and help him become a better partner. I'm sure that'd be much more appreciated then posting how bad he was on FML.
That's definitely a tough one, OP. If you're pretty interested in this guy and it's something worth pursuing, perhaps more communication about what pleases you would help improve things.
Can't blame him. He isn't a football playing king in space with perfect abs and a winning smile who goes all night and still has time to rescue kittens.... or whatever your unrealistic expectation was. Cut the boy some slack and don't build people into things they aren't.
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Is that what you think women fantasize about? If the sex was that bad, it wasn't due to high expectations. It's most likely due to either a lack of communication during sex and/or his inability to perform well--not just an inability to perform to expectations. Either that or this woman has always had stellar sex and he's average. Which I guess still sucks if you're used to stellar sex all the time.
Perform well? Like a jackhammer or some other industrial equipment? Expectations precede and determine that performance. If you make them too specific and too high, there won't be a real fit; the boy may be the best fish in the sea but if she's looking for a bird or some other creature he can't do any more than be him. And stellar sex is indeed about communication, and it's a two way street. She seems too preoccupied with touching herself to him than actually finding out about who he is, what he wants and how she fits with him. To be honest, You can't be having all that stellar sex if you're at home messing with your down stairs scroll wheel all the time.
Well OP was comparing it to sex she's had in the past (thus "worse sex she's ever had") so I guess it couldn't have been THAT unrealistic (as in kitten-rescuing football player) if other real-life men met the bill. But I agree with you that if it was that important to her, she'd take the time to get to know him a bit more and communicate to make things better for both of them. Her tone instead seems very condescending, and she obviously is not the type to help build people up...I feel bad for the dude. She gets no sympathy from me.
Seriously? Yes. You can be having stellar sex and still enjoy and take part in pleasuring yourself. Just like men, women can enjoy sex and "bean-flicking" as two separate and different kinds of experienced. And by "perform" I mean his part in sex. Hell, women "perform" as well. Perhaps the verb choice isn't to your liking but it's meant to mean their parts in sex. And nothing in this FML suggests she had unrealistic expectations.