Cursed

By IHaveATypeAparently - 25/07/2021 06:01

Today, I found out one of my exes is trans. I’m very happy for her, but I’m starting to think I have the wrong type, as I have had 3 ex-boyfriends come out as gay and 3 come out at trans right after breaking up. I really hope my current boyfriend doesn’t have a secret. FML
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Start a wing man service. For a fee, you could go to bars and meeting places with your customers and scan the guys. If one appears cute, tell your customer and she will avoid him like the plague. Bonus: if your customer is gay or trans, you can present him the guy.

I might be completely wrong but, in my experience, the gays and other LGBTs tend to find each other even before they know they are. (Like years after understanding you're a lesbian, learning that you exes were gay and vice versa). Maybe it's a sign to do some introspection? Or are you uncomfy with commitment for some other reason?

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Just transition to male and start dating your exes, problem solved! More seriously, you might indeed be attracted to guys who exhibit stereotypically "gay-ish" traits (being effeminate, skinny, demure, etc.). Obviously, I'm not saying any of those traits make someone gay, but I'd be tempted to assume that guys like those might be more likely to turn out to be either gay or eventually transition. Your best bet is likely to try to talk to your exes if you're still on good terms with them (not reason for you not to be) and work on your gaydar.

Start a wing man service. For a fee, you could go to bars and meeting places with your customers and scan the guys. If one appears cute, tell your customer and she will avoid him like the plague. Bonus: if your customer is gay or trans, you can present him the guy.

I'm confused. The symbol by your user name is male, so your boyfriend would have to be gay before you broke up. If I assume you are female, there are two possibilities: one is that you turn men gay or trans, the other is that they are lying to make breaking up with you easy (just an updated version of "It's not you, it's me.")

You can't *turn* someone gay or trans. It's something you are genetically.

It's true you can't "turn" someone gay, but there might be something with OP's behavior or personality that helped her exes come out. Which might be a good thing actually. As to "gayness" being genetic, if my understanding is correct, there's no real consensus about how much genetic factors matter, and there quite clearly isn't a "gay gene", but it seems to be a combination of hormonal, genetic and even simply random factors. How much each matter is up for debate though.

This has gotten way too serious! I'm just kidding.

I might be completely wrong but, in my experience, the gays and other LGBTs tend to find each other even before they know they are. (Like years after understanding you're a lesbian, learning that you exes were gay and vice versa). Maybe it's a sign to do some introspection? Or are you uncomfy with commitment for some other reason?

If your type is “very metro” you may end up finding a lot more in the closet men than straight ones. Good luck on your search though. They do exist.

I'm a gay guy and had something similar happen to me, in that several guys I've partnered with went and married women after we parted ways. it probably means I'm somehow attracted to Bi folks. and so are you