Love, Weddings and Money: Control

Control

By Username - 23/03/2011 16:38 - United States

Today, my future mother-in-law informed me that since she is putting money into our wedding, that all the planning and arrangements are under her authority. FML

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By Anonymous - 20/05/2016 19:38 - United States - San Antonio

Today, my soon-to-be mother-in-law decided that she is going to be in charge of planning my wedding. All decisions must be approved by her, and anything she doesn't like will be thrown out. She also wants to go on our honeymoon with us to make sure I don't "defile" her son. FML

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Oh no, oh no no no

By lauziej93 - This FML is from back in 2015 but it's good stuff - Spain - Logroño

Today, my mother-in-law became my boss. FML

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By Anonymous - 13/10/2012 23:42 - United Kingdom - Hemel Hempstead

Today, I was talking to my future mother-in-law about my upcoming wedding. She told me that I wasn't allowed to have the wedding at a church, nor wear a white dress, nor have roses for flowers, because that would mean I'd be "copying" her. FML

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By mlove - 06/09/2010 08:35 - United States

Today, my future mother-in-law finally admitted that I'm "not the girl for her son" and that she will do anything to break us up. FML

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Just stop, please

By fuck you, mum - This FML is from back in 2013 but it's good stuff - United Kingdom

Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML

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By need_cash_now - 28/04/2013 04:29 - United States

Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML

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By Anonymous - 13/01/2016 08:53 - Denmark

Today, I called my mom to make sure she could attend on the wedding day my fiancé and I had discussed. She started off with criticizing the venue we considered, then went on to criticize my fiancé, and then stated she would under no circumstances help out, but demanded to pick my wedding dress. FML

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By Potential Bridezilla - 10/08/2011 07:18 - United Arab Emirates

Today, a week after my fiancé and I got engaged, his mother is already complaining that she isn't involved enough in the wedding arrangements. We haven't even set a date yet. FML

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By LostSoul - 10/07/2019 02:06

Today, I found out my daughter was planning a wedding and invited everyone but me. FML

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By forever1990 - 28/01/2013 11:52 - United States - York

Today, I'm getting married. A few months ago, I allowed my mother in-law to take care of catering. She begged to be a part of the wedding, so I gave her the caterer's number and order info. It appears that I will not be eating at my own wedding because she decided to order food I'm allergic to. FML

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biggary19 3

Thursday 24 March 2011 0:04

stand up to the bicth now unless u wanna hear her shit 4 the rest of ur life

chosha_fml 26

Thursday 24 March 2011 0:06

Have a smaller wedding and tell her that you can't accept her help if it's conditional. This isn't the way to start a marriage, with her asserting her authority over your decisions.

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kritz0 10

Thursday 24 March 2011 7:28

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lonely_heart_89 6

Thursday 24 March 2011 7:29

The OP said that her mother-in-law is "putting money into the wedding," which doesn't mean she's paying for it entirely. In fact, the OP and her fiancé could be paying for most of it, and the mother-in-law could just be a nosy bitch, thinking that since she's contributing SOME money, then she gets to make all the decisions. OP, go tell her to F herself.

LilaBear 1

Thursday 24 March 2011 7:48

Then you tell her no. Allocate her money to specific parts of the wedding that you don't mind her participating in, then if she tries to control any other part of the wedding you can point out she is not paying for it so it's none of her business. My MIL was not too bad but she was insistent on wanting all the extra trappings like chair covers, a special gift-table tablecloth (seriously, a plain white wedding cloth would have done). I pretty much said no, they're not important and I'm not spending hundreds of dollars on that, but then she said she'd pay for it. So I thought what the heck?

lonswt 0

Thursday 24 March 2011 8:08

sucks to be u

playboyintown 4

Thursday 24 March 2011 8:27

find a different mother in law :) and a fiancé too.

docscientist 9

Thursday 24 March 2011 10:01

It's still incorrect written language.

Mabster84 2

Thursday 24 March 2011 10:09

You deserve it. Your fault if you let this woman run your arrangements now. Because soon she'll want to go to your ultrasound appointments, check your mail before you can, name your children, and try to convince your husband that you're not taking care of him the way he "should" be. MAN UP and let this woman know that you're not about to let YOUR day become her second chance...