I think OP just needs a new best friend.

Could get out there as well then her "best friend" would have nothing to talk about? Obviously this friend has qualities that OP enjoys so why end a friendship over a stupid mistake or lack of confidentiality?

If she shares more of your personal information then maybe it's time to quit sharing with her

It's not the oversharing that appears to be the problem - it's the callousness of "Um, it's really none of your business." and how she didn't stop. A friend would stop when asked (at least mine would).

A real friend doesn't share personal issues. Though, the OP should be a bit more careful about what they tell others, the friend has violated trust. Therefore, cannot be trusted until they understand what they were doing wrong. I'm not saying ignore them forever, you cannot communicate what they did wrong that way and you lose a friend. But if it goes with impunity, then it will keep happening.

Good save

that wouldnt stop her "friend" from talking, sure OP wouldn't hear her, but everyone else would.

That's not really going to help her when her "best friend" is telling everyone her personal secrets.

Would you like it if you had the same struggles and your best friend was spilling it all out to your friends? That would be embarrassing

Did you misread? Her friend was talking about OPs personal issues and I assume had confided in her BF who was now running her mouth.

Headphones?! Did you actually read the FML? Terrible advice!

Sorry guys, I totally misread the FML, I guess I deserve the down votes. It thanks for telling me

Sounds like OP has. Check out the username.

guitarki?

The username changed. It was neednewbestfriend or something like that before.

Guitar key...i think.

yeah, I had to make an account to comment, so it changed the username.

Don't trust anyone, not even yourself...

I prefer to say that revenge is a dish best served awesome!

Haha "that bitch can't talk back."

Because god forbid that anyone ever ask for advice. Don't know how to fix your brakes? Better figure it out on your own, asking for help is for *******.

Think you may have missed the point there. A mechanical failure of a piece of machinery is a little different than working out a personal problem on your own. Working things out on your own makes you stronger and ensures it is a lesson not soon forgotten. But if I have upset you, please refer to my profile.

Nope, no interest in reading your profile. As they are not different, how is my first break up any different than my first brake job? Something is broken and I've never dealt with it before, turning to those who have for help will help me learn to fix what is broken on my own in the future. That is why support groups exist, because it helps to talk to someone who understands what we are going through.

People live through break ups. Brake failures can kill for one. OP talk to a trusted friend and got slapped in the face as such. I hope she learns from this, becomes stronger and finds happiness. But most importantly, gets some new friends. Thank you for the spirited discussion, I do enjoy it.

Do you even have friends, 35? Because you just did a good job sounding like a jerk.

I do, we all work for the same company but in different areas of the country. A couple I have seen once or twice in the last 10 or so years. But when we catch up, it is like no time has passed. I am lucky to have excellent people like that in my life.

#Cads - I must assume you're just being a sarcastic ass. Surely you must realise that one of the best suicide prevention methods out there is encouraging people to seek support for their problems? Some people really DON'T live through breakups. You wanna know who is less likely to survive? Men - men are three times as likely as women to die from suicide. Because, um, they don't talk to anyone about their problems. And, like brake failures, suicides can kill people. Lmao

All valid points and well said.

suicides can kill people..lmfao?!?! suicide is funny?

#66 ... wow did that go over your head. Suicide is most certainly NOT funny. I laughed at my own gross understatement that "suicides 'can' kill people". Must be late where you are.

dont feed this troll. youll only regret it.

This type of advice is how school shootings happen..

Oh, I'm sorry, k had no idea grown ups were perfect beings that weren't allowed to say anything about any issue they are having about those close to them. Newsflash: putting on grown up pants (while yes, does mean fixing your problems) does not mean that you suddenly lose all rights to ever complain to talk about your problems. Grown ups are people, too. Especially with the type of issues OP is having, where it's not really something you just figure out all of a sudden. If you think that grown ups never ask for help with something, then you must think that all grown ups are the equivalent of Superman.

Exactly! Like try telling a mentally ill "grown up" to fix their own problems.