By angry asthmatic - 22/12/2018 14:00 - United States - Ann Arbor
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So it smells and you're upset, but someone does something about it and you complain? You get upset when your ice cream is cold, don't you? I need some cheese with all this whine I'm getting.
OP I want you to understand that you have a legal (& ethical) right to be safe even if your "safe" may not be identical to everyone else's. Health problems (such as the need for clean air with lung diseases, migraines etc) fall under the umbrella of disability anti-discrimination laws. As such you are entitled to whatever accommidations (ie, fragrance ban) are needed to avoid impeding your access to the same things your peers access (ie school, work, housing, medical care). The only exceptions are if the request is something dangerous or ruinously expensive, which a fragrance ban is not. So you don't need to take this. I used to have similar problems and didn't fight because bullies give you such a hard time, like you should feel guilty for wanting to breathe, & they'd die without their Axe (or Gain, Glade etc). Because I was such a doormat for so long, my health worsened & I became more & more reactive to synthetic fragrance, til now I am essentially in solitary confinement, unable to go in public at all or even live in a town, because of other people's fumes. Perhaps if I'd been more assertive I would not have deteriorated & I would still have my career & hobbies... a life worth living. Stand up for yourself. Don't be like me & look back regretfully once it's too late. Also... When bullies try to make it sound like you're being selfish remember, A: they have zero legit need for this stuff, you have a legit need to avoid it. They're essentially arguing that they should be free to assault you whenever they like. It's ridiculous & they're pricks! and B: Studies vary (because "reactive" is a spectrum, and not everyone defines it exactly the same) but at least 5-10% of people have significant reactions to synthetic fragrance. So you're surely not the only vulnerable one at your school. By getting an Axe ban (which many schools have btw) you'd be helping plenty of current & future students & staff, not just yourself.