By theaaxis - 26/11/2014 21:43 - United States
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Wow, this got published! To give a little background, my mom had been telling me for years that she would pay for my first two years of college, though she's a fickle woman, so I kept a backup plan. When she withdrew the offer, I accepted the situation gracefully, and am now taking a gap year, working 77 hours a week, so I won't have to depend on her. Any resentment over the money is over the week's notice I was given, which even still makes me worry about her financial situation more so than my own. That she wants even the gift back does bother me a little, but I by no means expected her to pay my way through life, and am very much financially independent. Thanks much to the many of you who understood!
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I hate to break it to you OP but your mom doesn't have to pay for your college education. However, that doesn't mean she shouldn't. As a fellow college kid, I know the struggle :/ I'm budgeting though, and I don't expect anything from my mom.
European countries that have free college are the nicest countries on earth. I'd be happy for the U.S. to just have better healthcare or free healthcare, let alone free college. Especially considering some people pay a couple hundred grand for college. My dentist said he has $300,000 in student loan debt. That's insane!
It is not the parents responsibility to pay for college. College is an optional continuation of education and therefore should be the responsibility of the person attending. However, if the money was a gift then she should not have asked for it back unless it was needed for something important like rent or a doctors bill.
Well, if she wants to buy a car, she should be allowed. It stinks that she makes you return her gift, though. It's a gift, after all
I payed for my own schooling and continue to do so. It's not easy op but it's not a right to have someone give you money. Not saying you deserve it or working three jobs is easy, but it's anyone's responsibility but your own in my opinion.
If a mother and a father think about having a son, before they do it, they should at least have money for your education, is pointless "having a son" to leave him with no future, my parents stopped buying me things since i got my first job, and i mean anything, clothes, games, books, etc, but they are the first ones saying that if someday i want to go back to school, they want to pay it
My parents said if I wanted to go to college that I would have to pay for it myself. It's not their job to control My life anymore. My dad had the same deal. It shouldn't be the parents job to save for kids to go to college. What if the kid doesn't want to go to college? Yes parents want to see their children succeed, as I want my child to do. But doing everything for them teaches them to be like the Brits, super dependent on their parents for everything and pretty much on the mothers tit until they are in their 30s because the parents do everything for the kids.
My family has the tradition of the parents budgeting for college for their children. As they expect the same of me if I have kids. It has a tactile reason of being able to have 1 job and to spend the rest of time on college. However, academic success is expected in HS and College. I've also taken 50 hours of dual-credit courses in high school to save money.