By madari - Spain - Benalm?dena
Today, my husband and I went to marriage counselling. I confessed something that was bothering me, but he didn't understand. Our counselor repeated word-for-word what I said right back at him. He turned to me angrily and shouted, "Why couldn't you just say that the first time?!" FML
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  ecstacie  |  2

Marriage counseling is a joke people just need to talk to there husbands/wives instead of paying someone to talk to. Trust is a big part of any relationship and you shouldn't hide anything from the person you vowed to spend the rest of your life with.

  P374RD3D  |  9

#22 Sometimes people are unable to solve the problem on their own and need help from a third party. OP deserves it because this is one of those cases?

  emilyjgraham  |  34

Think about it, if he gets mad over something like this then he could be the type of person to leave her over something silly. He's agreed to go to counselling (may have taken a little persuasion) but this shows he senses something is wrong and they can't fix it alone but wants to! I think counselling can be a very positive thing, it can help people get their point across when they normally struggle. And sometimes when others are in the room they may handle the situation differently, instead of screaming at each other they may find it easier to actually talk one another!

  AlexM42  |  5

Actually it is not a joke, it's an excellent method for cognitive restructuring within a relationship. The issue is that by the time that most couples start attending their relationship is already too torn apart for there to be a proper amount of time to mend it before it caves in on itself. If people would overcome the stigmas surrounding therapy the world would, on a whole, be a much happier and saner place.

  WritingWrongs  |  8

No, I think you're over-thinking it, he just wasn't paying attention, and assumed the therapist said it a different way, so he acted like that just to look like he was listening. Just my guess.

  rangerPat  |  12

Of course, OP could also be mistaken in this and actually have thought that the therapist repeated word-for-word what she said, where in reality the therapist just put it in simple terms for hubby.

  AKGirlinSD  |  20

It's brilliant! I thought the same exact thing. Sounds like the wife feels and appearance she's talking to a wall whenever she speaks to her husband. Best of luck to them!

  MzMegs  |  20

Attitudes like yours are the reason why divorce is so prevalent, #4. People with that attitude think that communication/other issues can't be worked out and decide to just give up without even trying. NO ONE is perfect, and that means there will always be disagreements, even between the most similar of people. You just have to ask yourself if your relationship is worth more than your pity issues.

  wildsweetchild  |  19

We can never know..for some people, when a person who's close to them tells them something or gives them an advice, they simply can't hear it... and the more you tell them, the less is the chance they'll ever hear or get's like they hit an automatic ignore button that reacts on curtain for those types of cases all it takes is a third person (even better a stranger) to tell them absolutely the same thing and magically they hear it and get it.


I'm so sorry for that, my friends parents are currently going through it, and it really sucks and its not even happening to me directly. I hope you feel better and keep in mind, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.